Can you forgive your best friend if he betrays you...I did
By darksorrow
@darksorrow (4666)
Bangladesh
July 31, 2008 12:15pm CST
I think i have asked a critical question? The answer is not critical to me because i have faced the situation before. Not once but twice.
First: He was in my school. He always said that i was his best friend. After school we did not meet for a long time. Few days ago suddenly we crossed path. Then we met at a later time. After meeting with him my belief in friendship has weakened. He has no intention to keep friends from whom he does not get any benefit. I did not underestand it that day but at a later time. I forgive him for that attitude.
Second: This one is not like the first one. But he is a liar. Most of the time he lies to me. I gave him the proof of his lies but after that he does not stop lying. Actually it become a habbit of him. I don't have any choice but to forgive him.
What would you do if you best friend does something like that?
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5 responses
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
31 Jul 08
Hi.
It would be hard not to feel hurt if someone you believe betrays you, but then It was you who gave them the power to hurt you by trusting them. I have never been in such a situation and hope that it remains like this for ever. I have great friends and we all love each other.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 08
Hello darksorrow,
It depends on what kind of thing she had done to me. I don't really have many friends in my real life as it is very difficult for me to believe or trust others beside myself. I was being cheated by a friend before. I was being targeted by a colleague who was jealous of me without any apparent reasons. I gave them another chance, not one but two. I understand as a human being, we tend to make mistake. I believe, that's normal for an ordinary human being like us. But, my patience has its limit. Once someone breaks my trust too often, I won't care anymore. I will give them a silent treatment until they really can think what went wrong - either they apologize or just disappear from my life.
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@darksorrow (4666)
• Bangladesh
1 Aug 08
My story is similar to you life. I also don't have many friends & most of them have broken my trust. So i have developed myself in a way that no one can break my trust. Simply by not believing in anyone.
My simplicity gives others the chance to hurt me. So to most of my friends i mix with them as a professional friend not just a friend.
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@Gargoyle0134 (1257)
• United States
31 Jul 08
NAW! You have the right to surround with positive friends you can trust! You can't trust him. This person is not worth the roller coaster ride he'll waste your time with. Move on and just kinda don't answer the phone or door when this one is around. (Trust me..ben there/done that whole thing. It is not up to you to deal with this mess.)
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@jenai1300 (98)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
yes, even how many times my bestfriend lies to me i still forgive him, he tried backstabbing me and tell my other friends negative things about me behind my bck, but i still forgive him, no matter what, coz he is my friend and friends forgive each other,
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