A Summer to Remember

@winterose (39931)
Canada
July 31, 2008 3:47pm CST
http://www.mylot.com/o/newdiscussion.aspx?q=13_34856 It was now clear to me why he never called me since that would have been too private and nobody would have known about it! He would never tell her himself because she would have known what he was up to but if his friends told her she would believe them! I felt so stupid and so humiliated. This was the first time in my life that I had ever felt used! I left there never to see Mark again. Discussion questions Were you ever jealous of your friends, who had boyfriends, or girl friends and you didn't? Did you ever think that one day you would become the proverbial "Old Maid" Did you ever wish as a younger person you had your friend's boyfriend? Did you ever act upon it, why or why not? Did you ever feel used by a guy or girl and find out it was only a ruse, a way to get back at his or her own girlfriend or boyfriend? Or perhaps in your younger days you felt used by a guy or girlfriend for something else?
5 responses
@gemini_rose (16194)
1 Aug 08
No I was never jealous of my friends, we just were not like that at all. Me and my friend often used to swop boyfriends believe it or not! She would fancy mine and I would fancy hers and we would be like " shall we try swop?" and it worked everytime then we would get fed up and move on to the next victims! It was only innocent then though, just kisses and holding hands.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
1 Aug 08
yeah it was all innocent then, but I still wanted her boyfriend lol, as an adult I am anything but that way now. Funny how the years change us
@gemini_rose (16194)
2 Aug 08
LOL it is funny how we change as we get older, I am NOTHING like I used to be.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Hi winterose, In my personal experienced, I have not tried this, I know I help several friends to get back get over from fights of their gfs/bfs but I was never jealous about it, My friends also and I have different standard about guys..LOL! So, we never had any problem about it..LOL! One time in College, one guy was courting me and he was my close friend's crush...Fortunately, he isn't my type..LOL! SO, whenever I am sick my close friend will be happy since she will accompany the guy to visit me and they can spend more time together..LOL!
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
1 Aug 08
that is wonderful, I am really not a jealous person but at 15 I kinda was, I wished I had a boyfriend so badly.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
3 Aug 08
all I got was a page to start a new discussion with the URL that you put in here. BUt to answer your questions . Never even thought to be jealous of anyone of who they were going with. or that I didnt have a boyfriend at the time. I even got some of my friends together they didnt stay together for it just wasnt meant to be. and I was to busy haveing fun with my friends to even think of boyfriends.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
4 Aug 08
sorry about the link not working here it is again if you want to read the story http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?memberId=58226&articleId=281474976767537&nav=MyGather
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
4 Aug 08
how awful for you for him to treat you that way and sissy too hope you got rid of her! that same summer friends like that you didnt need any enemies!
@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I actually planned on being an "Old Maid." None of my friends had boyfriends and I was pushing guys away.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
1 Aug 08
really, we were all afraid of being an old maid, when did you change your mind?
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I decided at 4 I wasn't going to get married, I had just had a little sister and I didn't want any babies. I tell people that I figured out where babies came from. It took a mommy and a daddy to have a baby. I would be the mommy and have to do all the yukkie work with the baby and I didn't want to do that. So, if I stayed away from potenial daddies, I wouldn't have a baby. I have to say, its worked REALLY well too. I also tell them that I figured out the math of marriage - 1+1 didn't equal 2, it equalled 3 (or more.) Now, jump forward to my 20's and I discovered the allergies. Well, I didn't have to worry about birth control since virgin births are so seldom. And now jump to my 40's, when I start having "female problems." The doctor wanted to put me on a hormone pill just to get me straighened out so he could do a pelvic exam and I had been spotting off and on for a couple of weeks. Now we discovered that ALL the pills had corn starch in them, so I shouldn't have taken them anyway! Now I'm kind of interested in maybe changing my marital status - I'll be 55 in November. But I think I can afford to be picky, don't you?
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@chertsy (3817)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I was never jealous of my friends, who had boyfriends. I honestly didn't want to get married or have kids. I wanted to join the military, then go to college to be a lawyer. I never wanted my friends boyfriends, one I saw their boyfriends as a bunch of two timing jerks, which my friend didn't believe at the time. I was used by girls, which I thought was my friend at the time, only to hook up with my brother or get closer to my brothers friend. I was really hurt by this, so the next time a new girl started being friends with me, I actually found it hard at first, for fear she was only using me to get to my brother or his friends. I was never used by a guy.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
yes that is true, I have been used by girls as well, and it take many years for me to know the difference between a real friendship and being used by somebody.