Can Our relationship work

Jamaica
July 31, 2008 4:46pm CST
i am a 31 yearold woman whose man is 5 years younger.we have been together for 5 years. We have a lot of problems and now im tired of them. we spend a lot of time together, some good some bad. Each time we breakup we always end up back together. i try really hard to trust him and hes always saying he innocent. i know he loves me but is that enough?
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
1 Aug 08
You need trust in a relationship or even a marriage to have a strong foundation to last through things that may come against you. Have you caught him cheating on you or doing things that would make you not think he is innocent? There has to be love there or you wouldn't end up back together. As for him being 5 years younger wouldn't make the difference. I am 7 years older than my husband and well the age factor isn't an issue in our relationship. Technically you really answered your own question. You are tired of the problems. And if him loving you isn't enough to hold you there and you have to question it then well it may be time to say goodbye. But before you do sit down with a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle and at the top of one side put pro and the other side put con and think about the last 5 years. write the good and the bad and see which one out weighs the other. Only you can know if it is worth saving or if it is time to twalk away. You can love a person but not be in love.
• Jamaica
1 Aug 08
thanks for your advise,
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
1 Aug 08
Try to go to the very roots of your misunderstanding-I believe age is only a number-the underlying misunderstanding you two have is the eal problem-see a marrage ounsellor or get to communicate with each other, slowly you will get over this-I have this feeling that you two people love each other!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Access your love for him, write a list of pros and cons of your relationship and a list of things you love and hate about him. Then look over that list and throw it away. That stuff doesn't matter, it's just things to help you get everything off your chest before you start to talk to him. Do you love him? I think you do by the discussion you had previously related. Just trust in yourself to say the things you need to say and want to say to him, let him do the rest! I hope that your relationship works out for the best, and have a wonderfully lovely day!