so confused about love it's making me stressed.

United States
August 1, 2008 10:07pm CST
I'm so confused..I love my exboyfriend with all my heart..We've been through a lot at such a young age .He was my only REAL boyfriend and i think thats why im hurting so much...I broke up with him in feb because of some inside issues i was going through that i didn't want to effect the relationship...only if you guys knew what i have to go through each and everyday that pasts and i dont hear from him or he dont call me or txt..You guys it hurts and i hate the fact i let go so early without knowing how much pain and suffering i would have to deal with in the end...We got together oct 9th 2006 so its been about almost two years ....He keeps throwing back in my face" you left me " and it hurts because i know my mistake nd i know he may be hurt...I just sometimes cry ...all i can do...He dont call me like he use to or txt me...Does he realize that i'm hurt just as bad as he is ? I have his child in my stomach and I'm 5 months pregnant..why cant he atleast respect me for that ? I've tryed it all and i cant txt or call him because if i txt him he's going to reply with short response and if i call he'll answer and get angry and say rude things...I want him to call me or txt me first...im always being the glue that sticks us together...its time for him to help out too...Please dont tell me to move on...easy said then done...then i txted him for money for the crib and he says "i will send you money" i said okay then he says " why didnt u ask ur boyfriend to do it " im like because its ur child...ughhh what boyfriend ? i have no boyfriend..see he thinks small minded like that ! confusing...i pray seem like no results.... if you've read all this god bless and thanks a lot for caring...
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6 responses
@clocks123 (1229)
• United States
3 Aug 08
You said You are carrying his baby. He should take responsibility for his child along with you. You have tried to get him to come back and He won't, but he should pay for your child until he or she is 18. I'm sorry i know it hurts you, but he dosen't appear to love you as he dosen't want to come back to you. If he won't give you money you should seek legal help. Best to you, your baby, and your future. You will find a man who will really love you and your baby, believe me
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• United States
3 Aug 08
I think you all for your comments...Some i read helped and some hurted but i guess thats apart of asking for advice !I know god has my battle and without him nothing is possible...
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• Sweden
2 Aug 08
First of all sorry for what happen to you.Love Love Love make girls strees.Anyway base on your story that you love your ex bf but i think he dont love you because he think you have another bf.I dont understand why boys always think like that,I think girl sad to say is you need to move on..think like this you love him but the question is did he you ?? i understand you why you said not to move on..But there is no other way dont tell me you will wait for him untill he will love you again,but i dont think so he will.So try to move on and take care of the baby in your stomach,GOD do that for a reason..I think it will be very hurts but we can do nothing if the guy dont love us then we need to move on,no other ways than that..I hope this im writing here make sense for you..
@prasanta (1947)
• India
2 Aug 08
I suggest, onece you have realised that it was your mistake and you are carrying, somehow meet him without informing him before, try to convince him with a surrendering attitude. It will work... He may so some anger but just bear with that. After all it's the question of a child's future -- do not forget that... All the best.
@mstgmagic (126)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Gurl I just got through going through the same thang. My boyfriend said the EXACT same thing to me too. It's like if i aint with you then why should i even consider, or think about the baby. But when you first get pregnant it all like i'm gone do this and im gone do that. so you think ok i'm gone have some help through this but then when everything falls apart you feel stupid and betrayed. Let me tell you sumthing and i had to learn this 4 myself too don't ever give your whole heart to a man. My baby daddy did me the same way then when i had her he came to the hospital even though we was broke up he was coming to see her on the regular and all. I put child support on him and then guess what he stopped coming to see her completely. After i did that i moved to another town. Trust me you will and can get over it just think about you and your baby. Stressn is not good trust me I stayed in the hopsital for that while i was pregnant. It can cause you to lose your baby so bump that and focus on your future gurl. Last but not least if you keep thinkn bout him like that yo baby gone look identical to him trust mine do. Then everytime you look at your child you'll see him but no matter what and i know you gone realize this when that baby born you gone see everything different and for the better so keep ya head up and your feet firm and you and your baby gone be alright. Holla if you need to talk!!!!!!!!!!
@lvaldean (1613)
• United States
2 Aug 08
I went back and read the other posts first, before replying to this one. You are likely not going to like what I am going to say in this reply. I hope though you take it to heart and know that I am not saying this to hurt your further. You are 17. You are about to bring another life into this world. You need all your energy and focus to be on you and that other life. All your love poured into you and that other life. All your spirit, all your light, all your loving thoughts, all your wellness ... everything you are and everything you dream of being should be focused on you and that new life. Never mind him. He will be who and what he chooses. You will not be able to force him or mold him. You will not be able to convince him to behave in a manner contrary to his desires or wishes. You can not change this. You are not him and not able to create in him a love for you or for the child the two of you formed. Only he can frame this love and only he can express this, if he chooses not to do so it is his loss in the end; do not allow his choice to frame your future or the future of your child. If his choice is to walk away from you, no matter what the circumstances are there is nothing you can do about this. You are hurting right now. This will change in time. There will be others that come into your life, some will be there for a short time, friends that will help you when you need it most; others will be there for the long haul. Even some day in the future with luck and grace you will meet that special someone who will love you for the special person that you are and will love your child with ferocity as you both deserve. For now, you must pour healing and love into yourself and toward your child. You must learn to care for yourself first. You must bless yourself with everything you can find in your life and the world that is great. If he won't step up to his responsibilities you must prepare for a fight to enforce the legal standard of responsibility a the bare minimum, your child deserves nothing less. Do not let what is temporary, your hurt take away from you what should be joyous, preparing for the birth of your child.
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@alpha7 (1910)
• France
13 Aug 08
This is a sad story,firstly,you did not tell him the reason why you ended the relationship with him,if it was this way that you explained that you put it to him,he could be something too bad because for you to state that you're passing through some inside issues is not enough explanation to him,atleast you should have come straight and very clare to him,this should atleast left the room for him to come back if things change but you just taking such a decision might just be putting him in a very tight situation and he wouldn't want thesame thing happen to him again,i think that is why he's keeping away from you.he is a human being like you and he could have thought you left him for other guy or something;You didn't tell us if he's aware if the child you're carrying is his.