What Are The Secrets of Couples Who Stay Long in Their Relationships?

@Jenaisle (14079)
Philippines
August 2, 2008 6:36am CST
When we see couples who had stayed married for so long, we often marvel of the reasons why they had lasted long. Little do we know that these couples didn't just let it happen, they worked hard for their relationship to survive the "storms" that may have assailed it. My parents are one such couple. I was a witness to how they tried hard to sustain their relationship. It was not easy amidst financial, emotional and psychological problems but their love have made them more understanding, more forgiving and more tolerant of each other's fault. Without these virtues, they would have never made it. They have also a deep spiritual belief in God that encouraged them stick to each other even when the world had turned its back on them. To read more of this article paste this link in your URL. http://jenaisle-candidthoughts.blogpsot.com/2008/040everlastinglove.html
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5 responses
• United States
2 Aug 08
You are right, Jenaisle, marriage is hard work. I told someone once that my marriage was one of my other jobs. Good, long lasting relationships take a lot of care and nurturing, just like raising a child. I think part of the reason my marriage has lasted as long as it has (30 years) is because we are friends. We support each other when things are not going well, and we rejoice together when they are. We communicate with each other. I thank God everyday that he sent this man into my life.
@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Very good observations, you're absolutely right and thanks for sharing your experience with us. I'm sure lots of readers will find your comment useful.
2 Aug 08
One secret of couples who stay long in their relationship is that they have mastereted the art of companionship like a scientist have mastered the scientific attitude.Staying together is an opportunity to socialize,and that is what they have turned to gold. Another secret of such a couple is genuine love for one another.Genuine love does not hate,does not gossip or backbite the other half.Genuine love can forgive with easy,realising the weak nature of man to err. Lastly,such a couple have a high respect for one another.Those who are close to them,will easily notice this attitude,as it is very difficult to hide.They hold themselves in a high self-esteem.And they command so much respect in their famililies and everybody that know them!
@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
I agree with all your observations -genuine love will always prevail no matter what, because true love is forgiving and understanding. Couples who have stayed long with each other are usually comfortable with each other.
@sharay (2769)
• India
2 Aug 08
The main secrets to have a longstanding, neverending relationship strictly consists of: 1. Unconditional love. 2. Understanding. 3. Tolerence.
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@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Yes, unconditional love implies everything - love, understanding, tolerance, patience, caring, forgivenss, thoughtfulness and all virtues. Your input is useful.
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Some couples want to quit. They just cant for children's sake. So they have to face all the trials of their marriage. Christ must be the center of the family and sure the couple can surpass the storm.
@Jenaisle (14079)
• Philippines
3 Aug 08
You're right, there must be a spiritual center for the marriage.
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
2 Aug 08
Just one secret COMPROMISE : )