Pros and Cons of a Threesome

August 5, 2008 8:33am CST
What are the pros and cons of them? I would love to hear from those that have had them and those that have not. If you HAVE has a threesom- What was the benefits from it? In other words, what good things can you say about it? Were there any complications that came from it? Have you had a threesome more than once? Do you feel it brought you and your partner together more? Was the third person a friend or stranger? If you have NOT had a threesome- Have you ever considered it? What do you think the appeal of it is for you? What problems do you see could arise from it? Who would you like the third person to be, a friend or stranger? Thanks in advance, I read all even if I can't reply to all.
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@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
5 Aug 08
If you HAVE has a threesom- - yes...many of them and thensomes as well LOL What was the benefits from it? In other words, what good things can you say about it? - its exciting..something different and new..it was fun and fully satisfying Were there any complications that came from it? - oddly enough..no..there never were issues that came up MIND YOU...it could be because I'd not been in a relationship at the time so it wasnt me, my partner and a third party..I figure thats a huge factor in why there was no trouble.. Have you had a threesome more than once? - LOL oh my yes!! LOL Do you feel it brought you and your partner together more? - doesnt apply.. Was the third person a friend or stranger? usually it was a friend and a stranger to me (but a friend to my friend) or visa versa but there were also times when it was just a bunch of us friends...it varied..
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@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Well rules are tops IMO....both parties need to talk and agree on what the limits are and they need to stick by them....NEVER break an agreement when it comes to that...respect..big thing...big big thing...never forcing your partner into a situation they arent into..for example if my man were to bring home some girl that he wanted us to threesome with and I wasnt attracted to her, the WORST THING he could do is try and force me or worse yet, guilt me into doign it just because HE is into her ya know....Never go behind your partners back and do these things...thats just cheating straight up....
5 Aug 08
Awesome response and honest!!!! Love it! So I seen where you mentioned above to another post, that there are rules and etiquette to this. What are those? This is just too interesting to me.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 08
I just don't think I can do it. Or probably, the way my mind was conditioned was it was purely immoral. That's why considering it does not play a part in my thoughts. And a problem of addiction may arise from it, what if your wife no longer enjoys the pleasure of sharing? Just my thought.. ^_^
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@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
5 Aug 08
that is a very good point to bring up without a doubt..one partner may no longer want to take part after a while...BUT thats where the rules of the game come into play...RESPECT AND TRUST MUST EXIST and remain there after getting into that type of lifestyle..I think thats the biggest problem with couples who get into the lifestyle but DONT get the full scope of it ya know..they just rush in head first without setting boundries and agreeing to rules etc etc and without communication and so on...Your average couple oftne isnt aware that there ARE rules and there IS ettiquete *sp* when you get into that sort of thing and becuase of their not being educated, issues arise later on and they are unable to handle it ya know.. but yes excellent point to mention
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5 Aug 08
"And a problem of addiction may arise from it, what if your wife no longer enjoys the pleasure of sharing? " That's a very realistic potential! One I feel that could be a future problem as well. If the couple have problems with accepting each other's feelings. Thanks for sharing your opinion, awesome perspective!
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@rocker21 (2720)
• India
5 Aug 08
No i wont like it, There is nothing in sharing your partner with a third person out there all free. Problems? its just not respecting your partner that you are just letting some one else come in your most private time! I wont like it ever! so no question of a stranger or friend.
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@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
5 Aug 08
its just not respecting your partner I dont see how it could be considered disrespectful though if your partner is ALSO up for it and into it ya know...
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