Live-in before Marriage?

@clarizz (354)
Philippines
August 6, 2008 1:07am CST
are you in favor of live-in before marriage?
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9 responses
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I am very much in favor of living together before marriage. When dating, we are always on our best behavior. Living together gives you a chance to see what the person is truly like
@clarizz (354)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hello. thank you for your comment. i agree to what you've said. i just want to ask if how can you handle the situation/problem when your partner go home after work drunk? do you give some space to think or to have time for your self?
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I would give them some space if they were drunk Drunks often are beligerent and want to fight. That's not good If they often come home drunk, it might be time for a new partner!
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@clarizz (354)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
what is the best idea for you to open the topic about going home drunk?
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I guess I have to be since I've been living with my girl friend for 4 years now... But then it's just as being married at least for us... I have a daughter from my previous relationship & she's now 8... She considers my girl friend as her own mother... My daughter was 2 when I met my girl friend & she was 4 when my girl friend moved in with me... We'll get hitched soon eventually, lol...
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@clarizz (354)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hi. thank you for your comment. at first, is your daughter adjusting in your situation? i hope that you will be good family forever.
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@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
6 Aug 08
My daughter adjusted fairly quickly... She was only 2 at the time when she met my girl friend & I don't think she knew any better... My girl friend is just about the only female figure in her life... My mom sometimes babysat my daughter but my girl friend was the one who's been a mother to her all these years... Thank you for your wishes... I hope we'll be a good family too...
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• Philippines
6 Aug 08
yea of course... marriage ain't exciting if you both don't do live-in before marriage
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@clarizz (354)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hello. thank you for your comment. marriage is a symbol of eternal love. :)
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@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
6 Aug 08
hi clarizz, I was reading the comments for your discussion. many of them are in favor of live in relation. and few of them are not becuase thhey cant as per their culture and belief. I think that if a person want a good partner he should be true in the first meet. no misconception. but its not posible because every one hides their fault and after few months and year, we come to know that this is not the person i am looking for.
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6 Aug 08
If the living would help them strenghten their knowledge about each other, why not? but in the law f GOd it should not be done.
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
6 Aug 08
I rather be living with my partner before we get married as we then know what we are going to be like when we actually live together. I am not talking every time you have a fight you go home. When you live with the person you have to stay there and work the problem out. After marriage you cannot just get up and walk out everytime you have a fight. You have to face it sooner or later. I have been living with my fiance for the last 2 years. When he is away for work (months on end) I come and live with my parents as where we live we are in the middle of nowhere. A blackhole. No cell service and when it's just me there it really is no point me staying there.
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
living in before marriage isn't bad at all but of course to our old fashioned parents, they won't approve to this. in our generation living in with our partner is alright because in this way we get to know our partner better and we will know on what matters should me more practice to have a better life with him or her. i prefer to that. haha!
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• China
6 Aug 08
i dreamed about it more than 1,000 times LOL.
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@lisa0351 (303)
• United States
6 Aug 08
I am definitely in favor of this. My husband and I moved out at least six months before we got married, and I am glad we did. Not only had either of us never lived on our own before, we wanted to make sure we were good and solid in our decision to wed. We had our fights, some big fights, but we worked it all out. I wouldn't want to be a newlywed and deal with learning to live with someone. I am glad we got that part out of the way. Its kind of tricky getting used to how someone else lives and what they do. You have to start all over, and learn how to budget money, even the simple things like cooking and cleaning caused a fight, only because we both were so different. However, our church did not agree to this and we about didn't get to be married there. They were highly upset and even did a whole sermon on it. Noone else seemed to understand why we did this. We even had family members who were very upset with us. To some people, they looked at us like we were doing things all wrong.
@clarizz (354)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hello. if both of you have a big fight how long it takes to work it out? if you dont mind me asking. i just want to know. this might be helpful for me.