Parents are still the best teacher.

Philippines
August 6, 2008 5:16am CST
I just accepted a new student that I will tutor. She is six and in preschool. As her dad told me she is really left behind by her classmates in a lot of ways. Usually, I accept tutorials at the beginning of the school year (classes start by June). But since her dad plead that his child really needed my help because tomorrow is their examinations I did not hesitate. As we are going through with our lessons, I noticed that she is not yet well equipped in terms of reading, spelling and comprehension. Their school's curriculum is really advance. Some of the topics are even taught in grade three for some of the students I tutor in other schools. So I did what I could but one session of tutoring or even weeks can possibly help her catch up with the lessons. When we arrive at their house, her dad is out with his friends. And as I can tell he is usually out with his friends because they live very close to us. No wonder why his child cannot catch up. He is a stay at home dad and his wife works abroad. Instead of teaching his kids he would rather spend his time with his friends. Parents should always find a way to help their kids with their studies. The school and the home are the venues from which children learn. Parents should establish a partnership with the school in teaching. The majority of the students I tutor belongs to couples that are working the whole day and have no time for their kids and that's reasonable. Hmmm... Mylot is so great that it actually helps me relax and share my views openly. Thanks for reading this!
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13 responses
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
That is so true! When I had my first baby, I really prepared our room. I put up posters, drawings and ABCs on the wall. I put primary colors because it would help develop his sense of sight. We do a lot of counting when going down the stairs. My kids also loves crafts and we do sort of thing, we make traffic lights, do some paintings, coloring etc.Being a teacher parent does not mean you have to put on a teacher uniform. There are so many ways where you can impart something on your kids. They are easy learners, my mom used to tell me that toddler is like a sponge, they would absorb everything they see, hear etc. You really don't have to be an expert to help your kids learn a few things and I just don't get it why some parents are too lazy to teach their kids.
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Some parents are plain lazy and don't take the time to teach their kids while others just don't have the time to do so. You're kids are lucky for having the kind of parent that you are.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
No I am lucky to have kids like them. Teaching them is the least I can do.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
7 Aug 08
its really true. the education we get from the parents in life are unmatched.i still remember the things my mom when i first started to learn. also parents should play role in overall growth of children.
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
As for me, I can still remember how my mom and dad used to help me with my studies no matter how busy they are.
@Mitraa (3188)
• India
7 Aug 08
Yes, you are very correct! Parents are really the best teachers for children. Also they are the first teachers, from which the children learn how to look this world and face challanges! I may say that most of the parents understand this, but very few act upon this basic idea. Even I have seen that some parents feel their responsibility is completed if the child is attached to a tutor! The problem is not with the children in any case. The problem is with the parents in every case and this is the undeniable truth! Sometimes I feel that on behalf of a school, an orientation course on better parnting and guiding children must be organised and parents must be instructed regularly to guide and support their children in their studies. This will sure build up a better child with better performances. Thanks for this nice discussion!
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Very well said! Yeah! There should be a class to improve parenting. Thanks for sharing.
@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
thats what i wanted to do, but since i have a job, i cannot look for my baby the whole day, he is now two years old, and i leave him with his nanny before, now i leave him to my niece, but still we have time to play when i got home after work. but he is much fun of playing and not on studying various things.
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
You may not actually see it but he is learning a lot while at play. Thanks for your thoughts!
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hi there. this is very true. it is the teacher who teaches the skills while the parents mold the character. molding a child must be a shared responsibility.
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
I also believe that. Thanks for your thoughts.
• India
6 Aug 08
Yes thats true. Parents are the first and best teacher in life. Whatever we learn in the childhood, that will be there for life. We get so many things from the ancestors before we come onto the earth.
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Thanks for your thoughts!
@callyw (191)
6 Aug 08
I agree - parents should help their children with their studies. As a teacher it is obvious which children are encouraged and supported in their studies by their parents, and which children are ignored or just plonked in front of the TV. It is such a shame when parents don't take on the responsibility of educating their children. Schools and teachers are important, but parents are central to the education of their children.
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
I totally agree. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
The father is very lucky to have a wife who is working and he in the company of his peers. So lucky that he got a tutor for his child so the burden now goes to other people and he's free to do what he want. Parents should be the first teacher of every child and before they can learn from other people, they must learn their every first from parents. Schools are just a support entity and we should not leave everything to teacher all that a child must learned. I won't be surprised if the child is slow in everything.
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
He used to work before but because of a certain medical condition he can no longer work. Yeah, he is so lucky having a wife like that. But I really pity his three kids. The one tutor does not even want to go back to their house maybe because their dad is not always around and all she will do is watch t.v.
@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hello Nina I know exactly what you are talking about! I am very big on education and my son. He just turned 3 years old and he knows all of his colors and shapes. Numbers in English and Spanish up to 20, and also knows his age. Just to name a few. I have worked with him since he was 1. I feel that education is really important especially at a younger age because thats when they learn faster and it all registers easily!
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
That's good to know! It only shows that you really are a loving and responsible mom. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
I agree with you.parents are responsible to guide the ways of thier child so that they will learn easier and understand all the things around them,,:-0 It is really irresponsible to think that a parent is out with his or her friends while thier child is havin difficulties and tryin to catch up with the new things around them,I mean they better satisfy thier teenager life when they were teenager but I know that they are just human who sometimes need friends to be with but it should be in the right time..:-0 God bless and have a nice day..:-0
• Sweden
7 Aug 08
Parents really are. I think it's very important for parents to invest time in their children in every way, not only learning. If they do they get more trust and confidence in their parents and can incorporate their guidance in a better way.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
Yep, i believe on that. As parents we are the very first and the best teachers for our kids. The knowledge is so first hand. Even if we did not talk, just by our actions, our kids learn from us. They imitate us. We influence them.
• Sweden
7 Aug 08
That true no better teacher than our parent,And our parent only teach the good things because they care a lots to us than other peope.But sometimes other parent do what is good for there kids but then other kids they dont understand it.