i know it sounds funny but i am like this.what to do:(

India
August 6, 2008 1:34pm CST
my problem is i am very homesick..i miss my home and my parents.yes many of you might be making fun of me.i am saying this because last month i went for a tour for 10 days but i couldnt stop thinking about my home and so couldnt enjoy even a bit.i am 21 years old.finished my engineering degree.got placed in 3 companies.my results are not yet announced and i will have to join any 1 company soon,\.but i cant even think about leaving my home.i know it sound silly but this is the real situation.i doubt whether it is some mental problem.i dont know what to do..
4 responses
• United States
6 Aug 08
There's nothing to be ashamed about being homesick. Some people have strong attachments to their homes; some people don't. If you're concerned about it, maybe see a psychologist or psychiatrist who can evaluate you for agoraphobia or some other problem. Is it possible that you're just anxious because you're on the brink of a huge life change? I know, when I first moved out, I was nervous, anxious, and lonely, but I got settled in pretty quickly and began to enjoy myself. I still miss seeing my parents all of the time, but I'm able to talk to them regularly by phone and get pictures and that sort of thing by email. I also made sure to bring a lot of mementos and things that reminded me of home when I left. Now, I'm building my own home, and miss visiting my parents! Congrats on your graduation and congrats on being accepted at three different companies! That's such a huge accomplishment! I hope you're able to overcome your homesickness and adjust to being on your own. Is there the option of getting a position near your family?
• India
7 Aug 08
thank you for your response.there is no good firms near my home.so i think its a start to my career and so i should be a part of a good company.anyway i will have to go.
@redchase (347)
6 Aug 08
i'd say take lots of pictures and take them with you and when you leave make sure you can call home every once in a while so its like you're not too far away. also try making actual friends where ever it is that you go. not just people you know at work but real friends to pass some time with. take some things from your home to remind you of what its like and so you dont feel so disconnected from it. try to involve yourself more in your own life than worrying about home all the time. keep yourself busy, take up a hobby, read books, see places. i think every once in a while you have to go home though. maybe around the holidays or so.
• India
6 Aug 08
thank you so much for your concern.actually these pictures make me more sick:( and when i went for the tour i spent lot of money on fone calling my parents.my job site is far ie in a different state so that i wont be able to come home for months.thinking about this makes me really crazy:( anyway i thinking reading books might help..thanks for the suggestion.once i make good friends there i think i will be able to overcome this.but the first few weeks are going to be really tough
@alori61 (344)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I have a daughter that is texting me right now telling me how much she wants to come home. She lives almost 900 miles away, is engaged, and has a great job. She is missing home only because I was there visiting until a few days ago, she will be ok again soon. When you have a good relationship with your parents it's normal to miss them, it doesn't mean your a baby. Once you get settled in your new home and job, make some friends, and learn your way around it will get easier. Good luck
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
..well, of course that's normal.. you are just attached very much with your family.. but in this world, you have to teach yourself no matter how difficult it is for you to leave your family once in a while because your family won't be there as long as you live.. sooner, you will build your own family and you need to stand alone.. you need to set your mind.. what the mind conceives, your body will achieve..