Success - no support from Wife
By Traqqer
@Traqqer (21)
United States
August 9, 2008 9:22am CST
I've been thinking of starting my own business after having worked in the consulting field for several years now. Even though I have a well-thought out plan that would guarantee a good income for the next 2-3 years while I build up the business, she's hysterical about the uncertainty of a personal business. All she sees is the stable check that she says we need for the kids (we have two). What she doesn't understand is the shortness of life. We only have one life and a lifetime to regret about missed opportunities. This is not a fly-by-the seat of the pants decision I'm trying to make, but a good opportunity that we should take advantage of. I look at my wife and I keep wanting to say the same thing that Will Smith's character said about his wife in the Pursuit of Happiness: "you are so weak."
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@maryrajam1962 (257)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 08
Just continue working and do your business part time first. After you made more than double of your salary then you can quit your day job. Do not worry about no support from wife. She is just afraid of financial problems. You can find success without support from family. Be responsible for your actions and do what you love.
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
9 Aug 08
The key here is to find a happy medium. Maybe you can start your own business on the side while still maintaining the stable check for now? Once your own business starts to prove itself to not only your wife but to you as well; I think you will find your wife being far more supportive of a decision to focus full time on the new business. Doing it this way will also allow you to build a little nest egg of savings which will also help your wife to feel a little less threatened about the future. The fact of the matter is that you are responsible for more than just yourself now and it is very difficult to succeed without the full support of your partner. It is not necessarily a case of weakness on her part; it is more of a case of a fear of the unknown! Maybe what I have suggested will help you convince her that all will be fine?
@trexhero (103)
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9 Aug 08
Is your current job within the business consultancy field or is that just what you have done in the past?
I would love to get into this field and am currently studying an FDA in Business and Management and this is something I have heavily considered doing. The problem for me would be getting any work or even experience so that is what I am trying to do.
How did you get into it?
If you start your own company, where in the world would you be based and would it be possible for me to do anything to get a little experience and learn from someone who has done it before?
I have a lot of sympathy for you as family and girlfriend often tell me that I am mad for coming up with ideas and ways to make money, which holds me back a lot and when I come up with a plan someday I will just do it regardless. Just make it so it doesn't affect them and its all cosher.
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@Traqqer (21)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Thanks for the input. I've discussed this further with the wifey and she's now comfortable with everything since I've promised no change in our lifestyle and we can stay in the same place even if the business thing doesn't work out, and I have to find a job. So, there was a little bit of a communication gap. The lession here is to make sure you keep talking to your significant other and to hash out all the concerns and misunderstandings.
