is virginity all that matters to a guy?

Why only look at a woman's virginity? Was the man a virgin when he married? I think it is too much of an issue over a tissue. What should matter is life after marriage and not before it. Maybe your husband feels insecure because he feels that he is not satisfying you enough, or maybe he feels that he is not being able to measure up to your expectations? Assure him that it is only him that matters to you and not any past relationships - this should not be just lip service - your actions should also denote this to him. These are all off the cuff suggestions - maybe I have got it completely wrong - I think you'd be the best judge to make your marriage a happy and successful one. All the best! Life's Lovely! Love & LIve LIfe! Live & Let Live!

Virginity is not important to guys. the only thing important to them is that they can know for sure that you are only theirs after you have made your commitment.

Oh mel, First of all..virginity is not all that matters to a guy. But sometimes, your partner loves you so much that he can't even expect you be sleeping with someone else. It's obvious feeling from Your Hubby's side. He may not be insecure infact It's his feelings for you. And you have clearly mentioned, he does so when he is drunked always, not when he is normal. So just try to handle the situation when he is drunked.. and try to solve out the situation when he is in his senses.