would you stay with your lover if you found out he?/she cheated on you?
By mitchii
@mitchii (154)
United States
August 12, 2008 7:29pm CST
thats a tough one. a lot of things come into play, will you ever gain that trust again?isnt everyone entitled to at least one mistake? supposed it was just one time and not an affair? do you believe in the saying once a cheater always a cheater?is it not possible for someone to cheat once and learn from there mistake? is it a difference if they tell you or if they got caught? are they generally a all around good person,does anything for you, a good companion a good lover but this come up? what do you guys think?
4 responses
@Berserko (14)
• United States
14 Aug 08
It is a tough decision to make. If my lover were to cheat on me and I found out about it, I would definitely not take it well. I would be mad. I would be bitter. I would be hard to communicate with (especially for her) for a while. If I did forgive, it would take some time.
Even after that time, if I did forgive her, she would never fully regain my trust no matter what she did. Everything she did would bring up a question in my head as to how genuine her actions were. When she said things like "I love you"I would wonder if such things were even true anymore. I would be suspicious whenever she went anywhere or hung out with anyone (especially guys) and would inwardly wish that I could keep surveillance on her.
I think by then the relationship would get so bad because of my behavior it wouldn't be able to hold up very well.
@angusthethird (515)
• United States
14 Aug 08
It would likely be the last straw. Because if you cheated I would know that I could never trust you again.
The first time, I may overlook. I will be hurt, but if I really love you, I will believe that the relationship still may be worth saving, depending on how far the two of you went.
If it happens again, it's most certainly a wrap. Because I know deep down your heart ain't with me, it's with the dude you cheated with.
And I am not one to waste my life living in fantasy land. As an adult you know there is a time you are required to face reality, even if it hurts. And I believe facing the truth is 50% of the battle. It may hurt you, but at the same time, it will set you free.
@kukucz (10)
• Poland
13 Aug 08
It is hard becouse If you really love some1 you would think of forgivens.But if your boyfriend/girlfriend cheated on you ,does he really love you? In my relationship I have simply rules my boyfriend can go out with his m8s(usually im going with him coz they always say is boring with out me;p)he can have girl mates.Watch football whenever he wants.But he know's if he would ever cheat on me that would be over and I would'nt forgive.I love him so much but if he would cheat on me that means im nt giving him that what he wants so we wont be a good couple. I wouldnt cheat on him becouse I don't have a need to do it. Im happy with my boyfriend and he gives all what I want in relationship so why would I look for somethink else?
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I honestly would not know what do.I think that it depends on what type of relationship you two have, or had :[ .It just seems like after that person cheated I wouldn't be able to look at them the same way and the trust would be completly gone.
A relationship is all about trust and I don't think I would be able to take a cheating lover :[
