have you ever known children who fought over inheritance?

United States
August 13, 2008 1:40pm CST
Now there is a siuation where a man had died and left everything to his wife. Now the children all think that they alone should inherit when the mom passes. They do not want to share. They feel that all should be left to only one of them. They each feel that they are the one. Now the mother is not ill and probably has many years to live. They are always asking her about this and saying why they feel that they should be the one. They also are saying that their dad told them that they would be the one. She is feeling terrible about all of this and cannot decide how she should leave the will. What do you think?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 08
The mother should do what she feels is right and not let them influence her. How awful that her children are putting that kind of pressure on her. Maybe she should just tell them to stop and that if they don't she will leave everything to charity or to a pet or something. And she should definitely put something in the will saying that if anybody contests it they lose their right to their portion!
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• United States
13 Aug 08
I agree with you. The problem is that they dont get along and one would want to sell and one wouldnt. They would not be able to agree on what is to be done with what. There is property and rental property involved. The mom is concerned that no matter how she leaves it , there will be trouble.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 08
I guess she will have to be as absolutely specific as possible in the will and then she will have to leave it to somebody else that she can trust to make sure it gets executed the way that she wants.
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• Ireland
31 Aug 08
Well, these children are the most awful lot of children and I feel very sorry for their poor mother. To be squabbling after their mum passes away is one thing but to be doing while she is still alive is just unbelievable. Why can't they respect their mum and let her do as she wishes with her estate. They must be extremely selfish not wanting to share with each other. I have often tried to discuss my will with my children and grandchildren but they are unwilling to discuss it. They have all said that they don't want anything and they would much prefer it if I didn't have to die. They get very upset at the thoughts that we will one day have to part. I think if that poor lady has only the three children then she should treat each of them equally and there should be no reason for her children to squabble when she is gone.
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• United States
7 Sep 08
You have summed it all up. I totaly agree with your post. I think its very sad and they should not speak or act like this about it. I cant even imagine how often her feelings have been hurt because of it.
• United States
31 Aug 08
I think it is terrible. They shouldn't be acting like spoiled brats. If I were her I would make the will and leave each of them something, but I wouldn't leave them much. I think they are being selfish and don't deserve much of anything.
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• United States
7 Sep 08
I would have to be considering that too. I would think maybe some charity might be more appropriate. It would defintly make me think twice, they may only get one dollar if it were me and my decision.
• United States
13 Aug 08
Is she is not ill and none of the children is her caregiver or is a criminal then IMO it should be evenly divided between them.
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• United States
7 Sep 08
That was what I always thought too. It makes it simple and there is no reason for anyone to act ugly or to argue. I just hope they all come to theiir senses. Its not worthwhile to cause so many hurt feelings and to distance family members.