do smart woman scare guys away?
August 14, 2008 10:31am CST
i am curious... do smart women scare or intimidate guys away? i have been told that i am brainy and i can speak up my heart and mind proficiently. i am independent. but don't get me wrong, i don't look like a geek and i am not a loser because there some brave enough guys who are attracted to me and tells me that they are intersted in me, however, they don't interest me... LOL.... but i just wonder if in general guys like women who are not smart but beautiful and outgoing personality?
15 Aug 08
u know that there times I asked myself that same question..? when I was in college I was so focus in my studies and lots of involvements, having a boyfriend is not part of my plans.. and having three older brothers made me feel like "I got too much of guys in my life!" I was never trying to be charming and sweet just to get a guy's attention, and so I noticed that some guys were intimidated by me, I remember three guys in school who were braved enough to show their interest, one usually treats me with special attention like offering me a seat and waiting for me outside the classroom, the other was a nuisance and asked for my cp no. just so to asked me to make his assignments and update him with the exam skeds, and I've never appreciated any of their offers or give them attention, I shoo them away in purpose by acting tough and made harsh comments, when I was in my senior year, that's when I realized that I'm really intimidating guys, that is when a seatmate in one of my class who was constantly showing he's interested that even my classmates/friends noticed, he usually pretends to catch up with the class discussions and asking me to help him during seatworks so that I could spend time with him for just a minute, and I usually act like I'm distracted. So much I pity him that one time I decided to give it a try to being nice, perhaps it was so sudden that he murmured behind my ear "I thought you're a snob but you weren't" It was really a big blow and so I turned to look at him as he passed beside me but he didnt even look back.. and stops talking to me after that.. It was definetly a lesson for me and I really regret the way I treated him, i never saw him for the next semester and didnt even know if he already graduated.. oh well, I was sorry and learned to be a lil less intimidating... I don't know how and I'm still learning..
16 Aug 08
hi friend. miss you around mylot these days? what are you up to? i had the same thing happen to me, i had classmates who showed interest in me, especially my classmate in my major. He would peek in the door or I could see him around often where i am or would sit besides me... and do other things. some of his classmates were publicly teasing him with me and all those indicators but you know, he never formally shown his feelings. i guess, i intimidated him too much.. hahhaa.. our course in college is in the field of computers and in programming, i am better than those guys... hehehe... so i guess, that made me the brains of the class and they would copy my codes. also i usually rack up the highest grade.... hehehee... but of course, if i had feelings in him, i would have made an effort to tamped down my being smart.. hahaha... maybe it was my defense mechanism... because i was too engrossed in my studies for anything like that. the only regret that i have is that because i tend to put a distance between me and guys since i was in highschool till college, it made me feel awkward if i am left with a guy that like. but these days, i am working in an environment where i get to meet people and develop my people skills. me, too, i am still learning... to be approachable and sociable. i feel it's a little late already since i am already of this age. but you know what, better learn now than never. and that's what i can say about this.... happy mylotting. because of this, you get a BR from me. keep posting long ones because you can benefit from it!!!!! miss you. ~ Shiloh
16 Aug 08
hi gemmaroo! i miss calling you that..hehe. hey, I remember you told me about that guy some few years ago.. hehe. yeah, same here same here.. awkward isnt? its even harder at work sometimes.. otherwise you'll be out of place just like what I usually feel when I'm surrounded with my guy officemates inside the office pantry at lunch breaks.. I'm trying to get along by laughing at their jokes even to some green ones, but most times I couldn't really fit in with the pack instead I try to avoid them by going out to buy something and be back long after, that is if no female officemate coming to rescue me from the awkwardness..lol.
14 Aug 08
hi shiloh. not at all. instead of scary, they are attractive. what i like most is a girl being both smart and funny. physical appearance will be just a bonus. mental beauty exercises some degree of influence on human body. a girl who is physically unattractive but mentally developed or has loving nature will look beautiful to others. you know that to a child, the most beautiful woman in the world is his/her mother.
15 Aug 08
hi there. thanks for this insightful reply. thanks for the assurance that not all men are into physical beauty but considers it as a bonus only... because i believe beauty is only fleeting. one will eventually grow old. but if one likes or loves a woman because of her personality and brains, that will stay longer...happy mylotting!!!! ~ Shiloh
• Lubbock, Texas
14 Aug 08
Smart women only scare away stupid men. If a man is not man enough to not be intimidated by a smart woman, the smart woman is much better off without him. In my generation women were encouraged to never let a man know she was smarter, or more proficient in anything than a man because it would make him feel bad and men didn't like that. I had a hard time buying that theory. Needless to say I wasn't very popular. Now days it's acceptable to be a woman and be smart, well educated, articulate and able to hold you own in the world on any given level with a man, but many men still feel threatened. It sounds like you know some men who gravitate to you because you're smart, but they don't have the same interests as you do. Keep looking. Have fun while you're at it. The right one will come along.
15 Aug 08
hi thanks for the reply, thebeaddoodler. thanks for these points... i will keep these in mind. i can't pretend who i am not... hahahah...this will help me reaassess my perspective about smart women and men in general... LOL... i will. happy mylotting!!!! ~ Shiloh :-D