What would you do as a parent?

@dawnald (84157)
Shingle Springs, California
August 14, 2008 11:10am CST
I'm an Olympics junkie. My favorite sport in the summer Olympics is gymnastics. It's an incredibly difficult and dangerous sport, but really beautiful when done well. The Chinese are fielding the best gymnastics team this time around. But I saw something that really got my attention as a parent. We've all seen that sports programs in communist countries are state run. And children who are especially talented often get moved from their hometown to a facility where they can have the best training. The other night it was mentioned that the leader of the Chinese womens team had been removed from her parents' home when she was four years old so that she could get the best training. She can only go home to see her parents once a year. Sometime when she was older she had called home and told her mother that she wanted to come home and her mother told her no. Now I realize that we are dealing with many things that are different from things in the US, culture, economics, etc. Her family may be very poor, who knows? I do know that it's not only very prestigious to have an Olympic athlete in the family but that the family also receives some kind of stipend from the government. But this is also a country that allows people only one child. If your one and only child was living away from you for something that was supposedly good for them and something that they loved to do, that's one thing. But if your child really wanted to stop doing it and come home (not just having a bad day or whatever), could you say no to that?
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@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Aug 08
if that will happen to me, being the parent of the child that is still in training, i will not let her come home. i will let her stay in the camp until the end of the training. i guess that will be good for the family, for her and for the country. that is, i live in china. but that is totally a different thing for i am not in china. we live, we grew up in the place that parents give priorities to their children's personal feelings rather than the feelings of other people. we always tries to give what is best for them and what will make them happy. (neildc @ red/88/1595)
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@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Aug 08
I'm not quite sure I understand what you're saying. But for me, I would certainly encourage the child to reconsider, she might have been having a bad day. But if she continued to want to leave the program, I would let her. What kind of message are you sending that the prestige of having an Olympic athlete is more important to you than respecting your child's choices in life?
@neildc (17257)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Aug 08
sorry, but what i am trying to say here is, if i live in china i will not let her go out of the training camp if the training isn't over yet. but here in the philippines, it will be the other way, for we parents, even our parents, give priorities to our children's feelings, their happiness, rather than feelings of other people.
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@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Aug 08
I see, thanks for clarifying! :-)
@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
5 Sep 08
one of my top class favorites is the gymnastics event!! i watch it curiously holding the breath and appreciate the neatness with which it is performed!! i love all its events !!and have deep respect for the sport and the participants!!
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Sep 08
I love gymnastics too!
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
see I do give them out once in a while... going thru the back log...