on what level does jealousy become too much in a relationship?

Philippines
August 14, 2008 4:14pm CST
when i get to find out that my partner is texting. chatting, or sending messages on the internet with someone whom he had a fling with before or whom he liked so much that he courted them but they never had a relationship(maybe just up to kissing but the girl didn't said yes to him) or a girl that i didn't know of and that he didn't mention to me, in short i had to find it on my own, i really get soooo mad that i just want to lash out on him. for me keeping those things to me means that his not being honest 100%. and what's his purpose of communicating again with his ex's or past flings when he infact doesn't want me to communicate with my ex's or past flings or someone that i liked before and gets hell mad, way too mad than i do when they are the ones who first message me or anything like that. its just so unfair for my part coz if he demands that from me why cant he keep his side of the bargain and it hurts too much when he does that(not telling me and still communicating with his ex's or flings before)... if he knows that i get hurt when he communicates with them then why does he have to do that when he also gets hurt if i do that to him... argh!!!
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3 responses
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
when you really love someone that you gave all your love and trust, but he/she still flirts with other people, it means that he/shes not contented with you..ouch! that really hurts
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
Jealousy is too much if you start to quarrel about the past women in his life. I think you shouldn't be jealous of those girls, you should be secure enough with your relationship. Although it does hurt if he demands this of you yet he keeps communicating with his past gfs, this is really insensitive of him. Men are so unfair. Maybe you should talk it out with him and tell him how you really feel about what he is doing and how he is hurting you and your relationship.
@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Aug 08
I think you need to trust your partner until such time as he gives you reason NOT to trust him. But at the same time, he needs to be a lot more sensitive about your feelings and not spend so much time communicating with his exes.