Real Friends???

@kinjalk (192)
United States
August 15, 2008 10:31am CST
This is my first post on mylot. How is everyone doing? I would like to ask you guys about friends. First let me tell you guys little about myself. I'm a kind of person taht would do anything for a friend. I would put my life on pause just so I can help a friend in need. I'm not bragging about anything but thats just the way I am and believe me that does not serve me right. I have these friends they are a couple right? They were my fiance's friends and they thought that I was a complete jackass before they met me. Once we started hanging out their perception of me changed completely and we got very close in very short period of time. We were hanging out almost everyday and we considered each other family. I considered my friend like my older brother you know. So anyways they got engaged and then moved to an apartment together and things pretty much went downhill from there. They would never talk to us, never return phone calls, I understood that they were about to get married and were stressed out. Thats what everyone kept telling, but then I realize they still hang out with other people but us. That kind of got to me, its like did we do something wrong? They get married and no invitation here at all. I was kinda surprised but what to do. So now my question to you is that are those friends real? or not? Should I keep calling and try to talk even though we are hurt but we dont want to let go coz we used to be good friends. Whats a good thing to do? THey dont' call us anymore, dont invite us anywhere, though we still call them and ask to join us in whatever we do. I'm a bit confused. I guess its true when they say,"people you love the most are the ones who hurt you" Thanks for listning :-)
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4 responses
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
15 Aug 08
Well, if they thought you were a complete jackass without even knowing you, then you dont need these people. they arent real friends, they are just fakers. I think its better to leave them alone if they don't want to be your friend.
@kinjalk (192)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Yep seems like thats the best thing to do, everyone is giving me same response, and I know thats what's needs to be done, i guess its just hard to let go. Oh well I will try harder. Thanks guys
• United States
15 Aug 08
I'm sorry that happened to you. I've had something simliar happen to me. I would call and just just get ignored. If they can't tell you what it is that is bothering them. I'd give up. There are people out there who are real friends. So I'd just move on to new ones. It's not worth stressing over. I know it hurts a lot but we have to move on and not keep wondering what it was that we did. There are true people out there I believe and I just contiue to press on to new ones. Good luck
• Malaysia
15 Aug 08
Hello kinjalk!! That must be a good feeling if I have a friend like you who will always help me if I in trouble. But your friends really dumb because they don't know how to appreciate what they have! If I were you I just let them be. I am not going to force them to be my best friend. Maybe there are something that they were jealous with you and your fiance. That shows that they were not a good friend. If they are a good friend, they will tell you when you have done something wrong. So before they hurt you more, better stay away. If they are good and kind friend they would not doing this thing. There are a lot friends out there, but its depends on us how to make them as our friends. Hope you enjoy on this board!! Happy Lucky....
@kinjalk (192)
• United States
15 Aug 08
:-) Thanks I was thinking the same way to just let them be and I'm sure they will most likely call when theyneed something. Thanks again for the comments
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
It is strange why do they dont call you back or answer your calls. Anyways, just wait for them when they want to let you back to them. I am pretty sure that they miss you or will miss you. Welcome to mylot. You can find new friends here. Anyways, you are right saying that the people you love most is the person who will hurt you most. Because of the fact that you are expecting more love from him/her, expecting not to be hurt. Anyways, that is life, just learn from it and enjoy.
@kinjalk (192)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Hey, I hear you its it life something you learn everyday, not always good i guess huh? Thanks for comment
• United States
15 Aug 08
I would find some new friends. Who needs that crap! Welcome to mylot and I hope you enjoy yourself here. You will make many friends here!
@kinjalk (192)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Thanks Honeydew, I sure hope I do make new friends. :-)