'Blush' I've Got A Date For Next Friday Night - Feel like a Teenager

@ellie333 (21029)
August 15, 2008 3:51pm CST
Oh No, What shall I wear? LOL. Its been a while since I've dated and I have been asked out for a drink next Friday night by a guy I have known for about eight years on and off but he is contracted locally at present. There has always been a slight chemistry but he is in his early thirties and I am 45 but he has finally asked to take me out, now what. I am so niave when it comes to this sort of thing, help guys please. I feel like a giggly girl. When was the last time any of you went on a date? How did you feel? How did you act? What was the outcome? Ellie :D
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@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
16 Aug 08
it has been almost a year since i was out on a date...just be happy and just let it flow...good luck with your date!!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi Thanks Roanne, Yes I will just go with the flow, I suppose it is easier in a sense because I do already know him. Ellie :D
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
16 Aug 08
yes,,,you already know him...for sure it will not go bad...just be yourself because that is why he likes you for sure..
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@rockkk (71)
16 Aug 08
well mine was a quite interesting with lot of fun n enjoyment with lot of romance n seduces n u can too try it out by jus tryin to be romantic n doin all good things n getting into the good books of her so tat she doesn mind ur seduces.so come on man cu too can do it.
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi Rockkk, I am the female but I will try to seduce him LOL. It will be fine as I know him already. Ellie :D
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@Munchkin547 (2778)
27 Aug 08
Way to go Ellie! You already know this guy so he obviously already likes you nad finds you attractive or he wouldn't have asked you out! So just be yourself, wear something that you feel comfortable in and that's appropriate for wherever you are going and just be yourself! He'll probably be a bit nervous too, but if the chemistry is there like you say both of you will soon relax and start enjoying yourselves! Age is just a number, and it obviously doesn't bother him as he has asked to take you out, so just enjoy it! You know about my last date, so we won't mention that! I have another one tomorrow night though, i always plan to start getting myself ready a bit earlier than i usually would and then i'm ready, chilled out and as relaxed as i can be by the time i meet them! I always try to wear something that makes me feel good about myself too, but nothing that looks like i've obviously made a huge effort - don't want to give them a big head! lol I hope it goes well for you, Ellie, it must be nervewracking to go back to the world of dating after a while, but you're obviously attractive and desirable, this guy clearly likes you, so enjoy it for what it is and who knows where it might lead, he could be your knight in shining armour or he could be the last person you'd want a relationship with, but there's only one way to find out and you can have a good night out whilst finding out!! Hope that made sense and wasn't too much of a ramble!! just enjoy yourself, part of the fun is the nerves beforehand!! xxx
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27 Aug 08
Just read through some of the other responses (sorry should have done that before!) and realised that the date has been postponed! If he asked you out he obviously wants to see you so i'm sure it will happen eventually but it's understandable that he will put his kids first, lets face it, we'd be slating him if he didn't!! So don't give up, let him know when you're free like he said, but let him do the running!! xxx
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@ellie333 (21029)
27 Aug 08
Hi Munchkin, Oh I completely understand that he needs to spend what time he can with the kids and once they go back it is me trying to get a babysitter sorted that is the problem. He is free when I not next week, the week after my babysitter is away LOL so maybe the friday afte that eh! You have a lovely time yourself tomorrow yeah. Huggles :D
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28 Aug 08
Well if it's meant to be you'll both find the time sooner or later, just maybe later rather than sooner at this rate! I hope you enjoy yourself when it does actually happen, you'll have to keep us updated! (mostly because i'm nosey! lol) big love xvx
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@littleowl (7157)
25 Aug 08
Hi Ellie...guess I'm a bit late now but how did your date go? you sounded pretty nervous but I would infact I don't know if I could go through with it lol it has been so long since I've been asked out its something I avoid it actually frightens me!! love and huggles littleowl
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@ellie333 (21029)
25 Aug 08
Hi Littleowl, It didn't it has been cancelled twice and next night he available in next Saturday but I am out on a work do that night, never the twain, oh well. Huggles. Ellie :D
@littleowl (7157)
25 Aug 08
Hi Ellie..that is such a shame maybe its not meant to be but at the same time I think it is really rude of him to ask you then keep making excuses..it's not fair on you love you lots Huggles littleowl
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@ellie333 (21029)
26 Aug 08
Hi Littleowl, It is the school holidays and his daughters have been staying with him, they were due to go back but have decided to stay longer so that one I can understand as his ex-wife moved them away to Doncaster so he only gets to see them in the school holidays. It is up to me now to tell him when I am next available LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D
@msedge (4012)
• United States
20 Aug 08
This is so exciting!I don't remember i went out for date.It was long time ago.I don't think age matter.Besides your age gap has not really a big difference.Goodluck and be happy!I knew i responded late.You had probably dated.How was it?
@ellie333 (21029)
20 Aug 08
Hi Msedge, Oh no I have gone yet was supposed to be for this Friday but been postponed now until Sunday but was told well in advance, not as excited as I was though but I will still have lots of fun thank you. Ellie :D
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
20 Aug 08
And I actually logged on to ask you if the butterflies had increased or decreased. LOL. How ironic you'd already answered.
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@ellie333 (21029)
20 Aug 08
How strange, they have decreased as you can see. Ellie :D
@mands61123 (2098)
17 Aug 08
i've never been on an official date as i've tended to date friends or friends of friends. i'd be excited though you seem comfortable with him as you've known hi for sometime but this is a new area thats only been skirted around with general safe flirting before. I don't think age makes any difference so i wouldn't worry about that many people act older or younger than their age so sometimes you just meet in the middle. I'm an accessories girl so i'd start with the shoes and bag and work from there. Firstly where are you going and what are you doing? this is key information for outfit choice!!! I'm usually just myself because lets be honest thats why they asked me out in the first place and like i said to you i'm very ood at reading people so can adopt to suit. I tend to be more comfortable with the shy quieter type than loud and brash but it also depends on the circumstances and situation. I'm excited for you though can feel those butterflies.
@ellie333 (21029)
17 Aug 08
Hi Mands, I don't know where we are going yet as he phoning in the week to organise time etc but I will wear smart casual so I feel comfortable and have recently purchased lots of great shoes as I have been to quite a few functions lately with bags to match ofcourse LOL. May even go shopping and treat myself yet, had hair cut on Friday so thats looking good so all I need to worry about is having FUN eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
18 Aug 08
so your pretty much sorted how are you having your hair? a different style or just a trim? You'll have to post a date pic as in you all dressed up before you go out!! Most people wear smart casual now even for going to weddings and things, i like you am more comfortable in a nice pair of pants and top and just dress it up with accessories. Let us know how it goes!
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 Aug 08
Hi Mands, I had had it all razor cut as it was getting quite thick and heavy, not too short but short, not restyled just tidied really. Date has been postponed now as his two daughters are staying for another week as it is school holidays but at least I know well in advance so it looks like Sunday night instead. I will let you know though. Ellie :D
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Isn't it exciting to feel the renewed anticipation of an exciting date? *Girl I acn almost feel the blushing through the screen. (LOL). Enjoy those butterflies on your date...it'll make you blush and smile while you're out and it will be genuine. Have fun!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi Mzkuma, Oh yes it is really exciting and I definitely intend to have fun too, thank you. Ellie :D
@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Well, since you rought the topic up, I hope you will tell us how exciting of a date you really did have.I love it when 2 people connect and thing go well. I will be checking to boards. Keep smiling.
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@ellie333 (21029)
20 Aug 08
Hi Mzkuma, Thanks for looking it to see how I was feeling, I am a lot less excited now but had a few days to settle and as it is now postponed til Sunday I am more of oh well when it happens instead. Ellie :D
• Malaysia
26 Aug 08
Congrats to you! Just think about things that you should say when you hang out with friends, and be yourself. That's all. And when it comes to dress, you know better. And because you know this guy quite a long time ago, you surely know what's his taste. But always wear something you are comfortable wearing, and at the same time can awe him but don't overly dress! Lol... Good luck, and if I am too late maybe you can use it for the next date. Have a nice time dating!
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• Malaysia
26 Aug 08
Aww... it has been cancelled? Never mind, you have a lot of time to date other people. The guy is not worth it, anyway. (Even if he is, just say he is not worth your time because he's not supposed to treat you this way... not a gentleman to me).
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@ellie333 (21029)
26 Aug 08
Hi Ladysurvivor, Postponed rather than cancelled, it is the school holidays and his daughters have been staying with him and asked to stay an extra week and then I am busy the week after, but I can understand as they live some distance away so it is only holiday time that he does get to see them eh! Thanks for the response though I will bear all you have said in mind. Ellie :D
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
16 Aug 08
Picture of cyberfluf and her boyfriend when they j - Cute huh? :)
The last time I went on sort of a date was with my boyfriend/fiance. We were both very nervous and we didn't know we liked each other yet, young and naive and mostly... deadly nervous! LOL! I asked him to go to the mall with me to buy a gift for our friend and so we did, we ended up holding hands and on the birthday of this friend we ended up having our first kiss and the thing went from there. In september we are together 5 years and we are engaged so I guess things went pretty well!
@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Wow Cyberfluff yes things did go pretty well, five years is a long time thank you for sharing, I am really pleased for you both. I will be nervous but I do know him so will just enjoy the evening and go from there. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
16 Aug 08
Just let it happen, with these things a girl can only rely on her instincts and her heart. Just go and have a good time, you'll see from there .
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
16 Aug 08
hey hey just staty natural he knows u since 8 yrs so he migjht have commented on ur dressing or his liking so wear that stufff Just chill, take it as nice out time take care
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi Cupid, I guess I should be feeling more relaxed because of the fact that I do know him eh! I am sure it will all go well, I'll have fun anyway. Ellie :D
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
18 Aug 08
All the best dear just go on and have Marvellous Time
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@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
16 Aug 08
I can see the sparkles in your eyes dear. Have great fun and wear something in black if its in the evening. It seems that you are going to have a great time since you two kinda know each other for sometime. Good luck!
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi mimipi, I have already decided to wear black trousers but don't know which top yet, I'll have a rummage through the wardrobe or maybe even go shopping for a new one LOL, why not, good excuse for an outfit eh! Huggles. Ellie :D
• United States
16 Aug 08
Ellie, Black goes good with everything, something sexy in red. and heels. don't forget to use your best perfume. Hey ellie, do you have long hair or short. Just curious, if you have long hair, keep it down.
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@PearlGrace (3172)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Hi ellie333. How exciting! It's so fun to have a date! And with a new guy also! Cool! If you are going out for a drink for the first time, it might be wise to wear what you are most comfortable in: for example, a pair of slacks and a favorite blouse. After getting a divorce years ago and dating again, I had so much fun! I took hours to select jewelry, which necklace to wear, whether to wear a dress or slacks, which shoes to wear, better have my nails polished, make sure my hair looks great, etc. etc. It was a wonderful time! Well, my husband and I still have date night. We just went out this evening. We always talk about how much fun we have on our dates, too. But, you are in a different place. You get to take time to get to know a new person. To me, that's what a date is for. Be ready to share a little about you and have some questions in mind for him. Smile alot. Enjoy it, ellie333. It sounds so fun.
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• United States
16 Aug 08
Hi Pearl, I always picture myself with someone else and I can't see me with anyone but my husband. We go through period where I just want to live him and has gotten close to filing for divorce. But something seem to keep us together. The last time I told which was about four month ago, that I wanted a divorce,and the only reason I'm we're together is because of our daughter. I told him that once she graduates from high school I wanted to file for divorce, which is next year. He tell me that he loves me, but I don't know if if i still do. I would love to have date night with him again to be like we were before, dancing, eating out and just me and him. My daughter is already 16, 17 on the 26th of this month. I just keep wondering what is going to happen after next year.
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi PearlGrace, That is fantastic that you and your husband do still have date nights as it keeps it more alive. In fact what you suggest for wearing is what I did in fact have in mind to wear, I even got my hair cut yesterday and was getting a bit unruly again so I will have fun getting ready. My beighbour is having my son for tea so I will have plenty of time to relax in a bath and spruce myself up LOL. I smile a lot anyway so no problem there and as I do already know him have lots to talk about. Ellie :D
@Rosekitty (19438)
• San Marcos, Texas
16 Aug 08
Yea for Ellie! Now since its been years since i've gone and done anything and i mean anything, I really can't give you pointers but please give me some when you find out..lol
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• United States
16 Aug 08
Hi Rose, Were you married before? What do you do for fun?
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@ellie333 (21029)
16 Aug 08
Hi Rosekitty, You've certainly seen a lot more than me recently though! Your customer showing you his bits LOL. You are absolutely gorgeous so I really can't understand why you haven't been out on a date. Ellie :D
@tessah (6621)
• United States
15 Aug 08
hrmmm.. last "date" type thing i had was a lil over 9 years ago when mal moved in and wed only known each other for 5 days online. same age difference.. i was 31 he was 20. and you already know how we turned out ..;points at the sprite;.. yer already up in the game.. youve known him for years and years.. he already knows you, which is why hes finally asked you out. be yerself.. thats who it is hes attracted to, not some illusion you create. have fun with it and good luck!
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@ellie333 (21029)
15 Aug 08
Hi Tessa, Wow, 5 days online, when you know you know eh and yes the age diffence is about the same too. I am so good with friends and family but when it comes to men I still haven't a clue at times but yes you are right I do know him the chemistry is there it has obviously taken a lot for him to make this move so I am just gonna be me and have fun with it. Ellie :D
@tessah (6621)
• United States
15 Aug 08
good girl!! and make sure that we all get a report after the date!! and umm.. for the record.. 3 of those five days that i knew mal online? was spent planning his move
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
15 Aug 08
Go ellie! Well my dear girl, you must be quite the hottie! He must really be attracted to you so I don't think you have anything to worry about. As you said you have known each other for some time now and there is obviously chemistry. So all you have to do is BE YOURSELF! He already likes YOU! It's normal to feel "nervous" and "excited". You'll be just fine! Don't think so much about it (yeah right, like that'll work) and just go! Just wear something casual, you'll know what to do! Calm down and breathe! I can't wait to hear about it! Now you go and have a blast! Oh yeah, it's next week. Ok, I'll wait.
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@ellie333 (21029)
15 Aug 08
Hi Opal, Yes A whole week away, ooooooooh, I am excited but also really looking forward to it too. I think I'll just dress smart casual as usual on a night out and just go with the flow. LOL Don't think about it, you're right, that will work, not LOL. My girls already think he is great so I don't stand a chance really eh! I'm am great with friends and family but when it comes to guys I haven't a clue, why, I really don't know. I will just try to be me and have a good time and see. Will definitely keep you posted. Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45640)
16 Aug 08
Opal. Ellie is so hot that you need suntan cream just to be with her. Phwoar. Lucky him I say!
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• Malaysia
1 Jul 10
Hi, I suggest that you just be yourself because based on your date's age he is matured enough. I think he likes you for what you are and he likes your usual appearance. If you want to dress to make a good impression, maybe you can wear one of your most attractive outfits available in your closet and put on make-up. However, make sure that you don't appear different from your ordinary appearance since this is going to be uncomfortable for you in the long run. Just take care of your personal hygiene since that is the most important. Make sure that your clothes are neatly pressed, your hair freshly washed and shampooed and tidied neatly. Wear your make-up just like what you have been wearing like usual, only highlight a little bit more while at the same time pay attention to look natural. Overdoing is not good at all and may look messy, clumsy and desperate. Wear your favorite perfume but never bathe in it because it will smell too strong. Other than that, clean your shoes, make sure your teeth are brushed and you smell fresh. Wear a calm and friendly attitude, and smile genuinely whenever appropriate. Listen attentively to what he's saying, and I believe everything else will go on smoothly. Good luck!
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@ellie333 (21029)
1 Jul 10
Hi Ladysurvivor, Some really good aadvice here, thankyou, I have in fact already been on this date and it went well but I think we will just remain friends at the moment. I always like to feel confortable and don't wear too much make up anyway but I did look and feel good on the night. Huggles. Ellie :D
@joyadalia (1409)
• Philippines
28 Aug 08
How was your date? I see that two has passed. Hope you found the best clothes to wear.
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@ellie333 (21029)
28 Aug 08
Hi Joyadalia, It has been postponed so hasn't happened yet but will update if and when it eventually does. At least I have had pleanty of time to think about what to wear eh LOL. Ellie :D
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
The last time I went out on a date was about 10 years ago and I did the asking!! I don't know what it is but I never get asked out...I've never been "courted". The closest I've come since then was to be invited to meet a guy at the pub with his mates...unknown to me, I was his ride home ...I don't drink and drive and he didn't have a car. I took him home and drove off and had no more contact with him. I always feel a bit nervous then I feel uncomfortable. Guys don't know how to treat a lady or how to behave like a gentleman or even make a girl feel special. I've had guys let me pay for everything - when I've been prepared to meet them half way, they leave me to pay the lot. One guy even pulled into a takeaway after I had paid for a motel room and the shopping for our evening meal. It was the next day and we had been sightseeing and he was taking me back to my car so we could go our separate ways. It was early afternoon and we'd had nothing since breakfast (no way was I paying for anything else) so I was relieved when he drove into the takeaway. He ordered something for himself and nothing for me. At the counter, I thought he meant to share, so I didn't order but no, we sat at the table and he didn't offer me anything...I was mortified...and hungry. So I can understand why you feel as you do but just try and be prepared for anything. I find things never go as I expect even when I deliberately leave my expectation level at almost zero. Oh well, at least he asked you out...I hope you enjoyed it and had fun.
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@ellie333 (21029)
27 Aug 08
Hi MsTickle, Well with this guy the one thing I do know for sure is that I wouldn't have to pay for anything even though I will sneak a round of drinks in when he in the loo of something as he is very much a gentleman. Original date been postponed but when we get out together eventually I will let you know. I can't believe what a ounce the guy you were with was though, that is digusting if he hadn't have been driving you to your car I would have thrown his food over him LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@msmell (1378)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
Oh a younger man you go girl think we could all do with one ot them every now and then.. LOL just don't tell my partner that I said that ok anyway what a shame that you haven't been able to go out yet and that you have had to rearrange it twice already but don't give up hope yet it will happen just maybe not over night! Maybe you should take him as your date to your work do?
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
18 Aug 08
My last date was sometime ago and yes, I was nervous but everything come out ok. I hope you have lots of fun
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@ellie333 (21029)
19 Aug 08
Hi Shelly Oh yes I do intend to have lots of fun, thank you. Ellie :D