Family
By Me_Again247
@Me_Again247 (9)
United States
August 18, 2008 2:25am CST
I love my family to death but sometimes they are a pain in the butt. Lately though i feel i am being replace by my dad and his new family. We had planned this trip for the summer to go to the beach and have some fun and i was supposed to learn to boogie bored. This week my dad told me i couldn't go and i planned the whole thing and then i got discarded from everything. I mean i am new to the whole almost step mom with a daughter thing and i guess this is what i did to my brother and i feel really bad. Does anyone know if i have the right feelings towards this situation or should i be more relaxed about it?
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@dagda24 (366)
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18 Aug 08
I'm sorry you're feeling so left out. I think I would be pretty annoyed/hurt if I was in the same situation.
Have you tried talking to your dad about it? It might not realise you feel so left out. Perhaps if the two of you chatted about the situation he'd realise your feelings and not exclude you.
@shrashira (438)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I know you how you feel.
My father left me whe I was 7 and started a new family.
I been through it all, it hurts. It doesn't make sense as a child.
Don't let it get you down, the sad feeling consumed my life. Don't let it take hold of you.
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
18 Aug 08
first and foremost.."Does anyone know if i have the right feelings towards this situation or should i be more relaxed about it?"
there is no such thing as "right or wrong" feelings..feelings are feelings, you cant control them, you cant tell them "hey its wrong to think like that we have to do the right thing" feelings dont listen and wont heed what your brain is trying to tell them. they just are.
i went thru the multiple marriages with both my father and mother, and it isnt easy.
do you know WHY your father said you couldnt go? did he give a reason? are you sure they are still going themselves? if they are still going you have every right and reason to be upset, and like the person above posted..you need to talk about this with your dad. keep as much open communication with him as possible-no matter how uncomfortable it is. be calm, be honest, dont yell or accuse, just say "hey, i dont understand why i cant go on the trip that i helped plan? i feel like im being left out or that you dont want me here." and see what his response is.
mind you...talk to him ALONE, without the other family members around. keeping these feelings and thoughts pent up will just fester and turn into a bigger problem as you get older. make sure you choose a time where he isnt rushing to get something done or feeling hurried/stressed out about something else..cause that could influence how he responds. you want him to be rational, calm and open just like you are.
good luck...i know it sucks but you've got to try to talk to him.
@Me_Again247 (9)
• United States
19 Aug 08
thanks for the advice. I tried to talk to him about how i was feeling and all he did was tell jokes about it and we were just on my way back to my moms so he wasn't rushed or anything. Then when i was getting out of the car he was all "oh so your not going to wish sand in my pants". That kind of just made me more mad like i want to wish the bad on him. I don't. Also he was hiding it from me from the beginning. I didn't know he was going to the beach he just said he was going out of town then my step sister was all i can't wait for the beach. So I guess i am just mad about it because i tried to talk about it with him.
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@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
19 Aug 08
im sorry to hear that..thats just not right. but then again much of life isnt is it? perhaps you can try telling your mother whats happening. im not saying she can fix it..and at this point in time would you really want to go anyways? but maybe she would have the opportunity to inform your father how he is screwing his relationship with you..and she can flat out say it..know what i mean?
