may december love affair..

Philippines
August 20, 2008 10:10am CST
I fell in love with a guy named Ryan . He is 12 years older than me, I am 18 years old and he is (just do your math). Would you fall to someone who is a lot older than you?
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15 responses
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
i always fall for someone older. i guess i prefer older men because they are more understanding. and besides, it's hard to find an understanding guy that has the same age as you, especially during puberty years :D
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• Philippines
22 Aug 08
exactly :) that is the reason why i prefer them over younger/same-age men :D
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
Yeah they are more matured but sensitive with our feelings. They don't mind even if you are stubborn or childish. They just love you for who you are even though sometimes I am too annoying and act as a brat. He is so patient with me and understands what I am going through. Thanks Janelleski.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
I am! I am in love with my girlfriend who is 13 years older then me. I don't care what people say, it's my life! You don't based on the age it's just numbers. It's how you feel,what's the depth of emotions and the way you think about it. It's almost 2 year now and it's still us and each passing day I love her more. I never love this way with anyone else and I would want to marry her and spend my life with her. What is important you accepts each other for what you are and what your gonna be,even your faults and mistakes. No one is perfect same with relationship. It's how you face life together.Have a nice day!
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
It really are numbers, you are right about that. Your story is so inspiring and I think you and her should be our example. But sometimes we argue with little things and he usually say sorry first before I do. I'll try to change and understand him better so that our relationship would work.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
27 Aug 08
Anything and everything can happen in love. One of my friends has a partner that's about 12 years older too and they are very happy together and are now actually living together and everything is great. I once had a boyfriend who was 6 years older but that didn't work out, my current boyfriend and fiancee is 2 years younger but much more mature than the guy who was 6 years older then me. Even though some people say the guy should be older this proofs that doesn't allways have to be so.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi rhyan, [i]I will not consider about the age as long as it is not 20 years older than me! I prefer matured and older guys in my life! When you enjoy hanging out with him and you shared the same feeling, then go! life is too short and do not deprive yourself from being happy with the man you love![/i]
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@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
As what they say ,"age doesn't matter". I personally don't consider age as a factor in loving someone or in choosing a particular person to love. If he makes you happy, then that's what matters most for me. Go for Ryan. :D best of luck
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Thanks for supporting me with these. I think he's nice and responsible. I just wish he really is the one for me. Sometimes we just don't get along because of our age gap, we frequently quarrel in petty things. But I love him so much and I think he loves me the same and we always find the way to reconcile, settle our misunderstandings.
@iyah10 (4115)
• Kuwait
27 Aug 08
I think age does not matter for someone who fall in love because it is very normal way especially for a woman who is younger and the man is older for i am also exactly in the same way with you for my Husband is also 11 years older than me but we can get along the way......
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
20 Aug 08
My boyfriend is eight years older than me and I love him dearly. When I was 19 I dated a man who was 30 so 11 years older than myself. He cheated on me and wasn't much of a boyfriend, he just saw me as something "fun" to have around.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 Aug 08
i am not into any relationship. so not easy for me to comment.but i think i will not fall for someone who is much older than me.may be i will think twice. but you never know when you fall in love
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@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
I've got an ex older than me before that's 4 years but now my boyfriend is younger than me. You know what friend age doesn't matter at all...when you feel it, this is it. But of course right time, right place..at your age your still young..there's a lot of time for love.
• United States
20 Aug 08
You are of age to make up your own mind and legal age to consent to be with him. When I was at the age you are now and even at 20 I was seeing men with about the same age gap as you and your new love. You can not help if your heart falls for someone that much older than you. I think though in some situations it is best for a younger person to wait to get involved heavily in a relationship until they have grown up some and know who they are and have had a chance to go out and live life some. Some people are mature enough to handle it though at 18-20 others need to be 25-30 before they are ready so I guess in my opinion it depends on the person's maturity and life experiences. But in answer to your question yes I would and have in the past fell for people older than myself.
• United States
21 Aug 08
i believe that anything is possible.. even though most people would argue the age difference there are some really mature 18 year olds out there and immature 30 year olds to where they would meet some where in the middle and be able to relate ok
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• United States
20 Aug 08
My husband is 13 years older than me. I am 28 and he is 41. We have been married now for 8 wonderful years.He has 3 kids from a previous marriage and relationship.I have 1 from a previous relationship and we have 2 kids together. Just because a man is older than you does not mean that it will not work out. Just make sure that you love that man and that he loves you.
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@ushaqwer (95)
• India
20 Aug 08
age is not a big factor.dont mind.you love him and he likes you.you can easily get married.it is not a big deal.there are some people who will have the gap-15 to 16.all de best.happy mylotting.
@Skylinr (118)
• Singapore
20 Aug 08
hm..i don't see why age should be a factor. love has no boundaries. =) as long as both of you like each other, i don't see why you should let age be in the way. I'm a guy and for some reasons, some people think younger guys and older girls being together is wierd as it should be the other way round. I was younger than my ex and age wasn't an issue. It was because of our different thinking and personalities that was a problem. If you think you'll be happy together, go for it! May you find the love of your life! =)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
So tell me this, why did you and your ex broke up? Was it because of your age gap or is it something else? I believe that we could make this work, and continue our wonderful relationship. And in the end I wish he would be the man for me. Thanks Skylinr.
@Skylinr (118)
• Singapore
21 Aug 08
We broke up not becasue of age. In fact, quite ironically, we broke up because while she's older than me I found her thinking to be quite immature. Its like the things she said are what you'll expect from a child, not an adult. And i could't keep up wiyh the amount of commitment she expected from me. Regardless of whatever things i'm doing, no matter how important, to her she must still be my top prioity. If i don't attend to her needs, she'll keep calling me. I agree that commitment to a relationship is vital, but it was just too much and i need my own privacy. In the end, it got me so stressed up, i had to give up. As you can see, its more of a personality problem, and not an age-related issue. So relax and go all out in your relationship!
@anawar (2404)
• United States
20 Aug 08
rhyannefranz- hi. If you feel you have had enough experience in the dating world, then my answer is yes. Most women at 18 years old, need to grow and learn before they commit to a relationship. (if you want a relationship, you didn't say) But, if you want to fall in love, fall in love. What's the harm in that? A woman at 18 years old might fall in love with an older man for many reasons. Older men can make a girl feel safe, perhaps provide for her and offer stability. Does Ryan have children? Has he been married before? I married at 19 years old and it was a big mistake. I rushed into a relationship, giving my love away before I should have. Take your time. anawar