Friends

@Chevee (5915)
United States
August 21, 2008 7:47pm CST
Have you added friends to your list and never seem to come across any of their post or see any of their posts. I have made many friends, and it seems like they just vanished, maybe I am not on at the same time they are. I know you can't keep up with all the friends you have but it would be nice to get to know them. What do you think?
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11 responses
@tjonys (217)
• China
22 Aug 08
Do not have many friends, few enough, of course, be the best!
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I was told the more friends the more responses you get to your discussions you support them and the will return the favor.
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@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
22 Aug 08
This is true if your friends are very active, and you have something in common with them. I have a few friends that write alot of discussions but I don't have much to say back because I know nothing of what they are talking about.
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
22 Aug 08
True, I don't comment on all either somethings you are just don't have any knowledge of and it is best to just pass them up.
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@myklj999 (13876)
• Olney, Illinois
22 Aug 08
I'm still here; hell, I'm almost always here just not necessarily all there.
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I can always count on you my friend.
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@myklj999 (13876)
• Olney, Illinois
22 Aug 08
I try to respond to several different friends discussions each day. My list is getting a little too big again though, so I'm gonna have to dump about 80 or so soon. You'll be one that stays.
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• United States
22 Aug 08
There is a notify button next to your friends name that you can turn on and it will let you know that they have posted something new. I was a member for a long time before I even knew about it. I also though have friends that don't start very many discussions so I don't see them as much as I would like. Then I have a few that like you said just vanish. No activity at all in months.
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@Chevee (5915)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Thanks didn't know that about the button.
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@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I have noticed the same thing. I seem to talk to the same few people all the time. I don't even see new discussions from the others. Don't know why it is though.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi Chevee, [i]did you turn on the notification? anyway if you did, maybe they are not active in posting, they are just hanging around to respond on the post! I have also friends like that but sad to say 3/4 of my friends are no longer active, wish they will be back soon![/i]
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
22 Aug 08
i dont accept freinds requests anymore unless i have actually spent some time already interacting with them and gotten to know them a bit first. ive downsized my list to a few and have a feeling i will be doing more deleting on it in the near future. id rather have a small list of TRUE friends, than a long one filled with people i wouldnt wanna even know in RL just to give the air of being "popular".
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• China
22 Aug 08
I think you're right in some sense. To make friends with others is really nice for us, but I'll be careful. I think time is best key to check friendship. Just like you say, I can't keep up with them very often and not all. I always believe that the person who has many friends will get more happiness and more fortunate.
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@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
22 Aug 08
i have noticed that this place is not as intimate as other profile pages or sites. i am just responding to email and chatting here for fun...i barely know people here, even as pen pals. i seem to know the other people on my other pages, like myspace, facebook, hi5, etc, they are more intimate group geared for social networking more.
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@mayka123 (10598)
• India
22 Aug 08
I have over 200 friends here and more than half of them do not respond to my discussions. The ones who were active in the beginning also seem to have disappeared.
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22 Aug 08
Hi Chevee, Yes there are few friends that I have and Iused to get wuite a lot of bu now no more, I wonder what has happened to them. Tamara
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• Philippines
22 Aug 08
Hi there Chevee! When I was just starting with myLot more than a year ago, I just accepted all friend requests that I get. As time went by, I have noticed that most of them are no longer active here. I have become more careful in choosing the requests that I accept. Even then, after a while of being active, some of them just went MIA. Well, they might have found other sites they are more comfortable and happy with. I do agree with you, it would be nice to get to know them more.
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