Does depression ever end?

@skaterx (530)
Finland
August 24, 2008 8:01pm CST
I don't know if I'm someone who just keeps getting chronically depressed, but from your own experience, does depression ever end? I think all throughout life there will be stuff happening that will be good or bad, and some ppl seem to handle it less affected than others. But if you are prone to depression, does it mean you keep getting depressed? I feel regret and pain from a lot of things, even if it was a long long time ago, and stuff that wouldn't matter to other people so much. Just because I think of it, and it haunts me. And the stuff with relationships and friendships, i can't handle the flux of losing a friendship or a relationship, because it feels like nothing is stable, and then I feel alone and scared.
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@pkraj111 (2460)
• India
25 Aug 08
Depression is all just a part of life. It is like a passing cloud that passes through you. As for the life, everything is stable, we are the ones that make it unstable. There are many people around you, to be friends with you. Just have a look at them. Consider their happiness as yours. You will start feeling better. All the best
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• China
25 Aug 08
I am depressed now since I find someone selfish. However, I think it is their own fault. Why do I feel terrible myself? It is illogical. Thus, I am going to survive this later. I am happier now.
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@Raymo23 (466)
• Uganda
25 Aug 08
Personally, I gave up on ever being happy. My life to me is an unending sadness, a wonder at the glaring and shaming failures of man and our civilization, at our selfish actions and mistakes. It's mainly that, and some happenings in my life... I am sad, but then I'm sometimes happy. I don't know if it should be classified as depression, but I believe there are people for whom it ends, even people who have never truly been depressed.
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• United States
25 Aug 08
I have Depression, and I will tell you one thing I have learned. It is "This to Shall pass". Depession is a Battle and if you are clinicly depressed you must seek medical attention. On the other hand life is a serise of ups and downs. We will all have our good times and our bad times. That's when that saying will be like a best friend.
• India
25 Aug 08
In my view, adepression never ends in one's life. we should learn to live life as it comes. we should be ready to face the challenges of life & try to see the situation in totality. every aspect of a situation is not bad. we should find the best part from it and explore that what can we get from the current situation. I have found that in such sitations MEDITATION plays a great role. Everybody should try meditation and feel the difference. Best of luck
@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Depression can be a problem that needs to be under a doctor's care. I prefer not to go that route, because all they know how to do, is give meds, which I don't want to take. For one thing, and I don't mean to sound mean spirited - - you have to get your thinking off of yourself, and your past, or depression will dominate your life. It can even lead to taking your life. I had the problem some years back. It takes a 'stubborn determination' to stop thinking about one's self and the past, but it 'can' be done. Make it your aim to help others, and be a true friend yourself. Don't gossip behind your friend's back - because it'll usually get back to them, and there goes your friendship. Don't have high expectations of your friends, as to what they can do for you, but realize that many will fade from your life, or just leave for one reason or another - - but some 'will' stay. When living life isn't about you - but others - and realizing that you can't change anyone but yourself, you'll eventually see that depression robs you of much of the enjoyment of just being yourself. And - don't worry about how friends accept or don't accept you. Just go on with your life and make dreams and plans for the future - - then do what you can to bring them about.
• United States
25 Aug 08
Yes, you just have to fight like Hell and find a lot of reasons not to be depressed. I had horrible depression at one time because of all of my physical and emotional problems, but I fought back and I found a lot of reasons to not be depressed, and I gradually got out of it. Depression runs in my family too, but we just have to learn to fight against it.
@Reyah23 (641)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Yes depression does end. There is a time to be happy and a time to be sad. It's the life balance. Every person have to experience this. This is not the matter of how long is the period of our depression but on how can we handle this. And i believe that we don't have problem that we cannot solve. God gave us trial upon our capacity only.
@nengs10 (3189)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Depression really ends. Try new things and be adventurous somehow. You need to explore more about life and relationship. Change your mindset. Be positive and live a carefree life. Also, have yourself real friends who will be there for you through rain or shine.
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@magna86 (1787)
• India
25 Aug 08
well there is nothing to be scared of dear!! everyone faces such things in life!! and do not get depressed for such things.. these things do happen once in a while.. all you have to do is to face it boldly!! its all about self control and controlling emotion!! if you really cannot control them then you have got to see some doctor for your problem!!! have a nice day !
@ashar123 (2360)
• India
25 Aug 08
After every night there is a morning and after every depression there is a happiness waiting for you. I have noticed and experienced this that the same happens to me most of time. Whenever I get tense or fighting worries, after that I get happiness. You are right some people think alot and worry alot and I am also one of them. But what can we do, its real hard to change the nature of humans, isn't it ?
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• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Hello. Depression has a cure. That means, if you are depressed right now, you need something or to do something that will put an end to it so that you can start living again. I have been depressed before, chronically. The state is usually triggered by loss - of relationship or of something within yourself. If your depression is affecting your health and work, and even relationship with others, then perhaps its time to seek professional help. If you are experiencing only what they call "the blues" then try to do something that you like and that you think might bring more colors to your life - go out with friends, talk about what you feel, unload your burdens, watch a funny movie, find something good about yourself and share it with others, go out with positive people who can lift you up and not pull you down instead. It's just a matter of time, and your depression will melt away. Don't worry, be happy. :) (you can find really good and trustworthy friends here in MyLot if you try)
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
25 Aug 08
Hi friend,When we are not bold enough to face happenings in life we feel depressed.But everyone faces depression in some way or other.yes its true that if you are prone to depression you keep getting depressed for everything and anything.so try to ignore all silly incidents which keeps you depressed.Dont ever think all about that again and again.Try to divert your mind.This helps a lot to not getting into depressions often.thanks for sharing.keep mylotting.
@carl1105 (114)
• China
25 Aug 08
i have the same trouble,it seems that depression always exist,life is not easy,you have to face this or that matter.but everday i tell myself that today is always the youngest day in your life left,pls cherish.whether you smile or cry ,time will never stop,so enjoy every second,keep confident and optimistical,wish god bless everyone !
@bdugas (3584)
• United States
25 Aug 08
it is really hard to get out of the depression mood when things just keep piling up on you, and we wonder if it ever ends, for me no it does not, there is so many things in our lives that I think we look back on and wonder why we did what we did, sometimes I think we put ourselves in the depressed mood by keeping those thoughts in our heads, I try my best to get up every day and say this is a new day and I will not let anything that happen before today get me down. Then the mail comes and there are all kinds of things that need to be taken care of and the depression starts all over again. I started taking medicine for it, but it made me sleep all the time, so I stop tking it.i guess it all depends on how you handle every day life. I am trying hard to make the best of the time I am here.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
25 Aug 08
I think it depends on whether you are talking about actual depression or just feeling blue. If you feel sad sometimes, but happy other times and it seems to be an even mix, you probably are just more sensitive to things and that will never go away unless you work on it. On the other hand, if you are always depressed and feeling that there is no hope and just feel dark and want to die . . . that`s probably not going away on its own either, but you can still live. Some people survive just fine by changing their diets, others need to see a doctor and take anti-depressants. If you are really depressed, then you need to know that it`s likely a chemical imbalance in your brain and that can be fixed. I lived with depression for far too long, over a decade, before doing something about it and I`m so glad I did. i really regret the years I wasted curled up in my room and feeling hopeless. So, if that`s you, definitely see a doctor, because it doesn`t have to be that way.
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• China
25 Aug 08
Depression is like happiness, everyone will meet in life. Not mind the gain or the loss. On one hand, loss imply gain; on the other hand, gain imply loss. Neither depression nor happiness, today will pass, why don't we keep happy? Just do what we able to do. Best wishes to you!
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• United States
25 Aug 08
i think it doesnt ever end. i believe it could go away for awhile. when life is going smootly, but once a rough patch is upon is it could come back into your life. so i believe it depends on how things are going and what is affecting you. and if you keep looking back at bad times in the past im sure the depression will stay. you have to look foward and stop looking back to move on
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
25 Aug 08
There are things we must battle for a lifetime but there is really a light at the end of the tunnel for depression, you must tho learn to know what is the best way for you to deal with it. See a dr or even go to a self help book section of a bookstore or the library. There is help out there, if you go to a church, seek a pastor. Good luck.
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@relundad (2312)
• United States
26 Aug 08
My heart goes out to you as it seems that you spend a lot of time depressed over things that you don't seem to have control over. I am guessing this must make life harder than it is for most. I have a friend that suffers from depression and it always pains me to see her. It seems that when she is going through her bouts of depression it is like she has a mental and physical ache that doesn't go away. I'm not a doctor, but a very good listener. And it appears that most of her depression stems from her co-dependency on people. She gives 200% to those people that she meets and be-friends and she expects the same as an automatic, which is usually not the case. She expects people to react in the same manner that she would, in a situation. Which is always a set-up for a huge let down. As a result she is always lonely. She has been married 3 times and each time the guy just married her for the wrong reasons and what she could offer them, with nothing to give in return, not even love. But every guy that she meets she falls head over heels because she is searching for someone to mask the loneliness and heal the depression. She is in her late 40's and wants kids really bad, but has none. I pray that you find the strength to find peace.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
26 Aug 08
Wow, it seems like you're a wonderful listener. I'm sure she feels a bit better just having you to listen to her, I know I would! The previous guy I dated couldn't remember the stuff I said to him, if i tried to talk to him about depression, so I'm not dating him anymore. I think it takes a rare person without depression to understand it because most people seem to think depression is just feeling sad, and tell you to go out do some stuff, meet people. But that's not really the issue, the issue is more deep-rooted than that, some people can feel happier when they socialise more and do more, but its not just about that, its about being depressed at life itself, dissapointed in your own life, disappointed in people, or important people in your life, it can be alot of things. Which is why it is so hard. Anyway, I think I can understand how your friend feels, about being disappointed in people . And also, I think when you're depressed or feeling some kind of lack, you go for something to try to make yourself feel better, whether it's looking for the perfect guy, and even if they are not perfect, u keep visualising them to be and pretending they are. I had the same problem with my ex. But anyway, i think sometimes life is so hard on people, or they feel so down, that they have to make some part of their life happy at least, so that's why they do that. It's sad but, i think alot of people pretend something to mask the pain, or well everyone wishes for a happy life, so i think thats why she tries so hard on those guys that a bad for her, because she really wants them to be good.
@bbjwlsn (263)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Hi skaterx, how are you today? You are so young to be feeling this way. You really should see a doctor and find out if you are clinically depressed. It sounds to me like you might be. Normal depression means that you may feel bad about a situation, but you get over it, and before too long you get out of the sadness and go about your life. Clinical depression, on the other hand, is when you feel sad or hopeless every day, often for no apparent reason. I am 60 years old, and I found out about 10 years ago that I have been clinically depressed for most of my life. I didn't even realize it until I went into therapy and talked about a lot of feelings that I didn't know that I had. Depression can also be caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. That is where antidepressants come into play. They can help to balance the chemicals, and make you feel better, more hopeful. Sometimes, you will have to try several different antidepressants before you find the one that works for you. But, when you get on the proper medication, you won't believe how much it can change your outlook on life. I take an antidepressant very day, and, sure I still have a day now and then when I feel sad about something, but for the most part I feel pretty good, mentally. I hope that you will seek help. You can feel good and enjoy life.
@skaterx (530)
• Finland
25 Aug 08
Wow thanks for all the thoughtful responses everyone. I guess everyone had a different perspective, a different input on it. I felt really crappy earlier today. But i think i have this kinda manic depression because I feel better now (watched a comedy :o). My feelings change alot. I just need better ways to deal with crappy days. And yes, someone was right, about the days being new, and meeting new people, and not having to think about the past so much. Life's tough, but I guess being strong is taking the good and bad and learning to deal with it, thanks for all the input and support everyone. It's really nice to be able to hear from so many different people, it makes me feel better too. I think depression is more common than the world seems to show us.