New neighbour

@MsTickle (24994)
Australia
August 25, 2008 6:11pm CST
Recently, a lady moved in next door to me. She is very independent, loves to laugh and is about 10 years older than me. We get along well and have lots in common. Previously, her ex lived there but he died of cancer just over a year ago and she half owned the place so she decided to return. She has worked in the town and throughout the district and is well know to all the townsfolk. She owns a lovely golden lab named Beauty that she took in as a stray and Beauty and my Lucy get along really well. My cat Banjo also likes to visit and is a welcome guest and sure of a pat. While I'm not happy that she punishes her lovely dog rather severely when she misbehaves, I think I'm pretty lucky to have scored such a good neighbour. The house on the other side of me is a purpose built meeting house for the Country Women's Association. It used to also be the Doctor's surgery (we don't have a doctor visit now) and there was a small library. The library no longer operates as well. The ladies meet once a month so there is no real intrusion. Lately, a work for the dole scheme has been operating from there but it doesn't affect me either. There are 3 vacant blocks that my friend owns that join the back of my very big block so no intrusion there either...I feel so blessed. How about your neighbours...do you love 'em , hate 'em , tolerate them ? Are they family, your best friends or the town drunk? Tell us how good or bad your close neighbours are.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Aug 08
On one side of me great neighbors and they are the only one we let baby sit for my grand daughter. the one on the other side havent spoke to her in years and I am not cutting my tree down cause she wants it down. the people behind us we dont know and one couple across the street has been her for a cook out and we enjoyed that very much. But we cant get togethre to muc for the hours they work and the hours my son in law works! A lot on our block are spanish and other nationalities we are a great mix of peoples
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
It must be really good to have someone to babysit. It sounds like you have a real melting pot around you. That could be lots of fun.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Aug 08
yes we do and I like it when 2 doors down have a party we enjoy the music lol
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
25 Aug 08
I have always had good neighbours, they tend to adopt me, I have a lovely greek lady and her grown up duaghter living next to me, I am dog sitting their little dog at the moment, but she calls me her second daughter but I am one that doesn't ask peoples ages but i think she is probably about the same age as me...
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
25 Aug 08
That's lovely. She might be older than you think if she thinks of you as her daughter. I've known some lovely Greek people. The only thing is they have HUGE family parties.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I live up a holler, and we are surrounded on 3 sides of the house by my husbands family and there are even more that live up the holler a little further which is also all his family. I can only say there are is good days and bad days..lolsibling will be sibling and argue occasionally
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
Do you have any photos mtndewgurl? I'm not sure what a holler is. I can't say I envy you. I would really not like to have family all around me all the time. *shudders*
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Well it is dark out right now so can't do a picture till tomorrow if I can. Holler? Well that is what we call it beacause everyone seems ot be within hollering distance it seems. It it a road that is off of a main one that is either dirt,gravelled, or black toped. Holler (adj.)(v.)(n.) Chiefly Upper Southern U.S. Variant of hollow This is the meaning I got drom a dictionary. Hope it helped we have some strange use of some words..
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
I love that word. What a good word for where you live. I can holler and no-one can hear me unless I scream and scream...I've had to once.
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@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
31 Jan 09
It is always nice to have a bit of space around where you live, if at all posible that is. We are fairly lucky as we live on a few acres of land and no near neighbours as there is a fair bit of bush near us. In fact it is on 3 sides of our property and the road is on the other side. Not thick bush by any means but it is not residential land at all and that is the important bit from our point of view. Our nearest neighbours are a couple of kms away from us and anyone coming to our place had to go past the neighbours’ to reach us. To road to our place once the neighbours’ place is passed is actually dirt (unsealed) road, so we can see them coming before they get to us. The neighbours are pretty good actually and if we are not home, then they take note of who is going past their place and let us know later on. They don’t interfere or pry but just keep an eye on the place and make sure that nobody is around the place too long if we are not home. If that happens, then they come on down to make sure that everything is okay and nobody is pinching the watermelons. They are not family or best friends but fantastic neighbours who are always there is we need them I suppose is the way to sum them up. If we were having a get together at home and it is not a strictly family affair, then we would always invite them and they do the same with us. Their children are around the same ages as ours are. In fact when their youngest daughter first moved out of town, she lived with our oldest daughter for a year in another town. She has since returned to our town though as she got a job here and is much happier in this little town of ours. It is great if you can have good neighbours and even better if you are friends with them. It certainly does make life much more pleasant and more so if you live in a small community. If you can’t have good neighbours, then you are better off having none at all I often think. It does sound like you have a good neighbour who is also a good friend to you MsTickle and that would certainly add to the enjoyment of living where you do.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
31 Jan 09
Hi oldboy. Your situation is something I would love. If you read the response just before yours you will see that the situation has deteriorated over the months. She's proved herself not a good neighbour in a couple of small ways now and she is certainly not a friend. Friends don't blurt out confidences in front of a group of neighbours and they don't tell you what you should and shouldn't do with your finances in front of the same people. Maybe I was overly sensitive but I felt quite embarrassed at the time. I was caught off guard and speechless and no-one else knew what to say either. It was a very uncomfortable moment.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
31 Jan 09
How awful for you that this woman turned out to be like that MsTickle. It does sound as though she might be notorious for this sort of thing and in a small town she will not have many/any friends. In other words the neighbour from hell and int ehd result is that she will be lonely as nobody will do anything to help herif she blabs peoples business all over the district. Too late now but if something like this happens in futre, yo might like to take a left our of my brother's book. They had a neighbour from hell who blabbed about everyone in the district and one day it got too much for my brother. One day a friend warned my brother about this neighbour and then repeated to my brother what the neighbour had said and my brother quickly replied "well he got that all wrong I can tell you". Friend said he didn't want to know and brother replied "well we owe more than that and you can tell him that from me." Same neighbour stired a fair bit and one day another person asked my brother "why haven't you done that yet" to which my brother replied "cos I am too lazy". After a few more incidents like that, the neighbour from hell gave up on my brother and annoed everyone else instead.
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@bunnybon7 (37707)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Jan 09
i havent been here long enough to know but i've found that most neighbors these days are hard to get aquinted with unless you've lived in a small town or community for a very long time. when i was younger, it seemed people were more friendly those days also.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
29 Jan 09
I posted this some time ago....things have gone down hill since then. The lady is bossy and officious and suggested to me in front of a group of people that if I stopped smoking I would be able to pay my bills more easily. It was more specific than that...I received an account and it was a thousand dollars more than last year and a thousand dollars more than I budgeted for. I confided this to her and that's what she did. I am actually a quit smoker and I was just having the occasional ciggy over a period of time. I rarely smoke. I was quite embarrassed when she came out with that. She was big noting herself as my confidante in front of the others and also showing off how thoughtful she could be. I haven't spoken to her since and things are obviously strained. She would call out to me all the time, I would shop for her and take her places and I would visit. All that has stopped...it was all so one sided. I have no problem saying hi and how are you but I will not be as friendly and outgoing as I was before. You're right about the small town side of things. I find the people are quite different...everyone has known each other for most of their lives!! She lived here some time ago for a long time but she was apparently quite unpopular then. She tries to imply that I know nothing and she is a fountain of knowledge. I know that a lot of people didn't like her and are not happy to see her return!
@bunnybon7 (37707)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Jan 09
oh im so sorry to hear that. and the problem is you have to live around this mean person all the time. she sounds really bitter.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
29 Aug 08
The house to our left is empty as the lady that lived there has gone into a home. To our right is a young family who are pleasant enough but we don't have much o do with them. They have two little boys that scream every morning. Not MY favourite way to start the day. Behind we have a family who keep themselves to themselves. Opposite we have a couple ion their thirties who were childless but came home one day with three small children who all now call them Mummy and Daddy. So we assume that they have adopted. Next to them is a woman that was born in her house in the 1930s. I'd say that we are all friendly enough, we'll help each other out if needs be, but we are not "friends". Kind of how I like it really.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
30 Aug 08
That all sounds very civilized Pikey....except for the kids screaming...that's not my cup of tea either. I'm curious about the instant family as well...3 at once is a huge call. Crikey!!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
30 Aug 08
A girl and two boys. They all look similar so I imagine that they are brothers and sister. The girl is very sweet, she stands on the doorstep every morning as dad goes to work calling "I love you daddy" until he drives away. The boys are less demonstrative, but still nice kids. They're about 6/5 and the girl I'd say is 3.
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@kaka135 (14130)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
Hi there, It's really fortunate that you got such good neighbors. Well, I do not really have good neighbors or I am not that closed to them. Though I always try to be friendly to them and try to keep the good relationship with neighbors, sometimes I just find that they are not considerate. As they will interfere my compound, throw or push rubbish in front of my house, park the car in front of my house, and so on. But, I have not make any complaints to them yet, as I do not wish to make the relationship becomes worse. I do greet them and talk to them when I see them.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
17 Feb 09
My neighbour has turned out to be horrible kaka...not like yours though. Your neighbours are terrible. I understand that you don't like to rock the boat, thinking it better to keep the peace. I tend to be like you but I will have little to do with my neighbour now. I thought we were friends but I was wrong.
• United States
26 Aug 08
Most of my neighbors keep to themselves and they will do things that I really do not approve of. The people next to me have gotten into really nasty arguments where the police have been called over one to many times.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
10 Sep 08
That would be hard for me to tolerate. You would never be able to become accustomed to such things. I hope they go somewhere else soon for you.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
26 Aug 08
Hello Ms. Tickle, How nice for you to have so much space and such a lovely neighbor. I had to move to the "big city" a few years ago due to family reasons. I sold my house and bought a condo near public transportation. At first I was totally miserable but now due to personal health issues I really like it. There is a small library in the building, an exercise room, sauna, and big hot tub in the basement. My neighbor across the hall is a retired priest, right next to me lives a retired couple, they barely speak English, they are Ukrainian, then there is Hazel next to the priest she is English and an excellent cook and baker, there are more apartments on my floor but I don't know the people very well, only to say hello to but they all seem to be nice. There is a legal secretary next to her another Ukrainian couple, who are friendly but kind of loud, then there is a Portugese lady and her teenage son and on the other side of the elevetor a Polish couple, a retired lady, a professional woman and another couple. I am lucky we all get along.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
10 Sep 08
That sounds really marvellous. I think I would like to live there as well. I love the sound of the amenities. I think you are very lucky and the fact that you all get along is a lovely big bonus. I hope your health is ok friend.
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
26 Aug 08
I think I'm quite bless with good neighbors. my neighbor on my right recently had some construction work done he converted his entire back yard in to a pool and barbecue area which was noisy for months but now its all done he recently had a party and his house looks great. My neighbor on my left is a lovely old couple who has lived in that home for nearly 30 years together and they were high school sweethearts back in the day and are still in love. isn't that sweet? I think its a shame that their son only visits them ones in a blue moon but their daughter comes every weekend!
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
They do sound like wonderful neighbours!. Do you get invited to bbqs or to swim in the pool?
@gemini_rose (16194)
26 Aug 08
We have been very lucky with our neighbours this time. I could not ask for better neighbours. They are pleasant and talkative when we see each other but they never bother me all the time. They are lovely to the kids and one side are always giving them boxes of toys and even sent money for my son on his birthday. They are not noisy and they are not a pain! We are not the best of friends but I know that if I ever needed help for any reason they would be there in a flash.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
Oh how lucky you are...they are indeed most excellent neighbours.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
You are lucky enough to have good and kind neighbors. I like our neighbors also. They are very accommodating and nice to us. They even invite us all the time when they are celebrating something like birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, etc. It's fun to live with them actually. I have nothing against our neighbors now. They are all very good to me and my wife. Our life is more peaceful with them in the neighborhood.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
How lovely. I think that is the best kind of neighbour...those that include you as a friend in their family doings. I don't believe in living in each others pockets but I don't believe in excluding neighbours either....blessed be.!
@metalhalo (601)
• United States
26 Aug 08
My husband and I are living in our second home now...but it never seems to fail that no matter where we live we get the goofiest neighbors. In our starter home there was an average family who would often have large groups over and they would park infront of our driveway. I don't mind when someone parks in front of the house but NOT in front of our driveway! That's just rude and illegal for all I know. On the other side of us was another family who were constantly getting into loud domestic disputes. That's lovely let me tell you. It was a single woman and her 3 teenagers. Her children were horrid. Thankfully we only lived there for about 5 years. The house we live in now is on a quiet street. We're surrounded by elderly people and they seem as sweet as can be. Well, everyone except the widow who's to the east of us. Everytime she drives by she cranes her neck out of the window to stare at us. And she isn't very friendly at all. So I have to say while I don't just love them, I don't hate them either. Most of them are friendly and chatty. I like that. It makes for a good peaceful neighborhood.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
Five years is a long time to put up horrid fighting families. Your old lady that likes to stare as she drives past should watch it or else she'll run into something when she's not watching the road. Give her a big cheery wave whenever you see her. She will either become friends or stop staring...
@vbleble (122)
• Hong Kong
26 Aug 08
Recently my neighbours have all moved away and only my family is left.... I also wat some good neighbours come=[ It makes me feel lonely atnight when it's so quiet, I find that I cannot bear this any more. Again sorry for my poor English
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
Hello vbleble...welcome to myLot. . I'm a person who is happy on my own but I know that does not suit most people. I hope you get some new neighbours soon. I hope they are friendly and nice too. Don't worry...your English is quite good..
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
[/i] i really hate my neighbor![i] they are all so weird and doesn't know how to cooperate and behave as neighbors.. i'm really hoping that i had a neighbor like yours. you're very lucky and blessed to have one good neighbor.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
That's a shame that you have unco-operative neighbours. That can ruin your life i reckon. Yes, I'm blessed, we are becoming good friends I feel.
@GardenGerty (104225)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I have a parking lot that belongs to the church directly behind me. The church owns all the houses on that side of the alley. They get rented and sometimes it is good, sometimes bad. Church owns the house to the north of me as well.Most of the renters do not know the church owns the property as an agent who is a real "b" manages the property. I would like to see that change. Immediately to the south is a great guy who works for the utility company and tends to maintain the alley and do lots of stuff around the neighborhood. In his spare time he builds cars for the demo derbies.On the corner, the last neighbors, keep completely to them selves. Put up a privacy fence and have nothing to do with the rest of us. Cross the street south and there is the college I attended thirty five years ago. Small college, church sponsored. Businesses across the street in my block. A real estate agency, a physical therapy clinic and the American Red Cross offices. Pretty quiet, not very intrusive, except for the agent that manages the rentals, and she oversteps her bounds a lot.
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@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
That sounds really interesting. It's a different sort of neighbourhood you're describing there Gerty. Thanks. The maintenance guy sounds nice, the agent sounds like a pain...guess it sort of balances out.
• United States
26 Aug 08
Sounds like you've got a great neighbor! We don't talk or really associate with ours much, but the couple next to us have borrowed our lawnmower and that sort of thing before. The people across the street have a psycho adult son that leaves nasty messages in our mailbox and waits until someone goes to the box before leaving. It happened when I had a bunch of bushes removed and when we had to take down a tree -- you know, things that happen and are cleaned up within a day or two. For the most part, our neighbors are relatively unoffensive and don't bother us, which is a good thing, for me!
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
Well I guess that makes life a bit interesting sometimes. It sounds pretty peaceful otherwise though. My neighbour has just been in sharing a cuppa which is something I don't normally do but I feel comfortable with her.
@kalianju (138)
• Nepal
17 Oct 08
i have good neighbour.....they are like family. we enjoy with neighbour.....
@mlti68 (5)
• India
26 Aug 08
hi i never felt any such things from our neighbours as its an common thing that you feel it interested when you peep on others maters i wont think its so nice thing to discuss about neighboutrs wether good or bad
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
Ahhh, a different perspective. Why do you think it's not nice to discuss your neighbours?
@srikool (936)
• India
16 Oct 08
i love all people noramaly..why i have to hate someone even they are worst in character..we should love everyone this is my policy..so i want to love my neighbour too..they are too good..how can i hate the person in my next door..then how can come out of my home..i love them..their loveable one...have a nice time