Will you be angry if friends forgot your birthday?
August 27, 2008 12:19pm CST
Hi everyone! I've actually been thinking if I'd start this discussion. I don't know in posting this I'm showing an acceptance or venting out. Anyway, here's how it all started: Three years ago, I celebrated my 18th birthday and I treated my friends at a nearby KFC from school. We had a 4-hour break so we got the chance to go out. I didn't like to celebrate my 18th birthday as a debut party (turning 18 in the Philippines among girls is like US's sweet 16) because frankly, I don't like to wear dresses and I don't like that sophisticated party So I just thought I'd celebrate my debut in my own simple way. That birthday was the first time I ever treated friends. It was one of my greatest birthday celebrations! I was even shocked that they made me this huge birthday card (one of them was really very creative) and they even bought me a cake. The year after that, my birthday was on a day wherein we had to attend our OJT's on different places. No one remembered my birthday that day and I was so disappointed. They all wished my happy birthday the next day though, but why did not even one of them remember my birthday? Maybe because they thought it was on a 26th? (mine's 25th). Last year, my birthday was on a day that we were all together in a class. One classmate called me up that morning because he was living near me and was asking if we'd go together to school. My mom told him it was my birthday and I was kind of upset because I want to know if anyone will remember my birthday that year. So my mom called up my classmate and told him not to tell anyone. We got to school and they remembered (I hope they naturally did unless my classmate was able to break the news). And my birthday this year comes. It was just last August 25. I was glad to wake up and see that one of my friends greeted me. I waited whole day to see who remembers but only she remembered my birthday. I'm very thankful for her though! Anyway, I received many greetings from classmates, former teacher and friend, and online friends. I also got greetings from people I didn't know and I'm thankful to them too. But my other friends...they totally forgot. I don't know why. All I know is I'm already thankful for those who greeted me and I'm so glad they did. Of all the people, those whom I didn't expect were the ones who remembered. By the way, these friends I'm talking about are classmates and we just graduated last March so we don't get to see each other anymore. What was annoying was that one of them was sending me text message quotes on my birthday for several times. Did she not remember? It's okay for me but receiving those quotes meant nothing to me that day. My only sentiment is that I know all of their birthdays yet most of them forgot. Isn't that ironic? I really don't know what I feel about it. Maybe I'm a bit mad but the other people who wished my happy birthday really made me feel great and they put a smile on my face. If you were in my situation or if you have the a similar experience, will you be angry if among all people, your friends are the ones who forgot your birthday? Happy Mylotting!
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• United States
27 Aug 08
I can totally relate to your situation, because my birthday falls just after the New Year - and so people always seem to forget my birthday (either beecause of the Christmas celebration which precedes or because they need to purchase new calendars...) My wife discovered something interesting. People forget our little daughter's birthday, which falls a little more than a week prior to my wife's birthday. So my daughter gets belated birthday greetings, and my wife receives her birthday greetings right on time! Belated birthday greetings to you!
28 Aug 08
Thanks for the greeting highlyclever! I'm sorry about the circumstance you're in. But people should at least remember, it's near an important event. I don't think it's easy to forget that.:P Just like two of my friends, it's very easy to remember their birthday because one has her birthday on Valentine's and one has hers on Halloween. Does your daughter get upset about it? I hope not
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• United States
2 Sep 08
No, my daughter really doesn't get upset about it. She's really too young to notice as yet (she just turned 3), and we do a pretty good job of having all sorts of presents and things for her to open that any void from other directions goes without notice... Although, I think she enjoys getting cards in the mail and opening them... As for me, well, I'm older now and while it is nice to be remembered, it isn't the end of the world if people forget. I told my wife the other day that one of my favorite birthday things to do is to go to places that give you a discount (or a free meal) on your birthday - although we don't have any of those places where we live currently.
• United States
27 Aug 08
Hey darlin I am sorry you are so disappointed that friends have forgotten your birthday. Trust me when I tell you when you get older you are going to wish they start forgetting it lol. Many people do not even look at a calendar during the course of the day and sometimes the days just fly by. Some people remember it earlier in the day while they are busy and as the day goes on with many activities they forget to make that phone call. Do not worry they are there day in and day out, a birthday is only a way to say how old you are, it does not say how wonderful you are and you should be treated special every day not just one day out of the year. Head up smile and remember what a wonderful person you are.
27 Aug 08
Thank you very much for the help! That's absolutely true with one of my friends. His family is having some sort of financial trouble right now so I totally understand him. Thank you for the wonderful insight about birthdays. I think I'll try to think about that from now own. Really appreciate the help. I bet you're a wonderful person yourself. Have a nice day!