What do I do?? How should I feel?? HELP ME!!!

United States
August 31, 2008 3:53pm CST
Ok lately my family has been going thru alot of problems let me give you some short details of what has happened. Ok in late july our niece(15) ran away and we found her we decided to bring her to live with us.(Us= Me, my BF and our 3 kids. ages 4 to 3 months)Well 2 days after we did that she ran away from here well when the cops found her that same day she told them that we had beat her, hogged tied her,and didnt feed her. She also said that my BF beats our kids. Well after all that our neice went and got my BF's Mother involved. And my BF and his Mother Have not gotten along since he was little because she allowed her ex Husband to beat my BF, his brothers, and sister. Short after she got involved she recieved temporary guardianship over her and decided to press charges on my BF and put a restraining order on him. Well all that was resolved in court last week. We ended up getting a Mutual Restraining Order which means that what ever we cant do they cant do either. But, before that was all said and done my BF's Mother was trying to say that she was gonna have our kids taken away. Well 2 days ago a Child Pertective services Lady came and said that their was a reprot on us that we dont have food or clothes for our kids and that we dont bathe them and we leave them unattended out side for hours at a time. Well The lady checked the house and the found everything to be False. But i am very upset and hurt that this has even happened to us. And it's causing me and my BF to have problems. we got into a fight and i blamed it all on him. I said that if wouldnt have never brought his niece to live with us we would never had been in the position. And now we are at the point where we feel we are done with each other. He's done with me for complaining and blaming it on him, and I'm done with him for putting us in this position. What to do????????
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
31 Aug 08
you know things happen there is no one person to blame it sounds like there are several people involved in this honestly i would stop playing the blame game you have kids toworry about you dont want this to affect them . if everything that has went on is now cleared up then move on dont even look back yall could become better people for this by realizing 1 that god looke dover you through this horrible time 2. if yal can beat this its possible you will be able to beat anything that comes your way i say put it all behind you you know how that sayiang goes the past is in the past
• United States
1 Sep 08
heaven's right. stop playing the blame game, whats done is done and cant be taken back or changed now. sure his actions put the situation at your doorstep, but he was only trying to take care of his niece. the whole thing backfired in his face, and he knows it, but if you continue to complain and blame him, it turns into "rubbing his nose in it" instead. now is the time to stop, sit down with him and have a calm discussion. do you want to live without him? no? then tell him that, tell him you dont want this whole mess to ruin what you have with each other. it kind of sounds like things are as close to "back to normal" as they can be right now..child protection found nothing wrong..so nothing to worry about there, just his mother trying to be vindictive--so let her stew in her own juices and let HER deal with the niece now. if she is such a little monster as to make up you guys abusing her like that..then his mother can have her. sit down with each other and take a deep breath. things COULD be worse, to me it sounds like things would be just fine, if both of you can get past what happened.and realize that by continuing to hold it against each other...is gonna make your world fall apart.