I have a damn dilemma with someone...

Belgium
September 1, 2008 6:20pm CST
Hello there ! Well as I just wrote in the title, I have a dilemma ! Let's explain shortly : I'm 21 and during those summer vacation, I fell in love with a woman who is 8 years older than me... She also has a daughter she had with her ex-boyfriend (3 years ago)... The problems are : 1) She is really older than me 2) She has a daughter already... 3) I don't have any job for the moment ! Well she pays me attention for sure ! But I don't know what's going on with her feelings... I already tried to make her understand that i'm interested in her, but I think it was unsuccesful. Lol please answer this discussion, I really need help ! I'm going to bed for now, I will read those tomozza with pleasure :)
2 responses
fwidman
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Other than not having a job, I don't really see a problem there What does age have to do with it? It's just a number. And the daughter, so? I have raised five children, none of them were biologically mine, but I loved them and they loved me just the same
Oscuro1987
@Oscuro1987 (130)
• Belgium
1 Sep 08
Hello Fwidman :) Well i'm still not to bed so i will answer ^^ The problem is that I try to "attract" her to me, but to her eyes, I think i'm only a young guy... But in my head, I'm not so young. It's like I feel better with older people, it is wierd really.. :( I want to explain her that I'm not the immature boy she thinks I am.
fwidman
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
1 Sep 08
If that is the case, then be patient. Young people want things done right away, so to prove that you are not the youngster that she thinks you are, prove it by being patient. Keep after her, but be slow in how you do it that will help
Oscuro1987
@Oscuro1987 (130)
• Belgium
1 Sep 08
Well I think you are right indeed... Anyway you have got more experience than me on that subject, for sure ! ^^ Well I care after her, I do whatever I think is good for her... Because she feels lonely you know.. During those 3 years, I saw her moral lowering so dangerously, so I decided to help her, entertain her, etc... Yes... Time could solve the situation maybe...
heaven11
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
2 Sep 08
well i know youve heard that saying age is just a number well it really is as long as you are in love with her treart her and her child the way they need to be treated you are willing to take care of that child just like you would your own then there is not a problem at all
Oscuro1987
@Oscuro1987 (130)
• Belgium
2 Sep 08
Hello Heaven11 ! It's true, age is just a number, but it includes maturity and experience of life, so this number could be signifiant for some of us. About her daughter, I really love her she's so sweet, but I think she may be a bit possessive about her, as i'm not the father. Furthermore, I would like to take care of them, but I actually have no stable revenues as i'm still at university... Hmmm I'm in quite a big dilemma with all of those problems :S