what do you think of long distance relationships?

Australia
September 1, 2008 7:35pm CST
Are you in favor of long distance relationship? Ever been in this situation before and then? What are your views regarding this type of relationship among couples?
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• United States
2 Sep 08
Well...I'm kind of currently in one right now :) I live in Arizona he lives in New York. We did meet online though (NOT on a dating site...just by chance on a game we both like). But I think s far it's going pretty good :) We send eachother a lot of emails, and talk directly with eachother when we are on the game. We use myspace so that we can share pictures and just have a little fun with the different "Apps" while sending messages too. Sounds geeky too? :P lol. But it isn't, it's fun for me...and a little easier since I'm a bit shy! lol.
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• Australia
2 Sep 08
hey LilyoftheThorns, thank you for posting! Let me share my opinion/s.. I don't think it sounds geeky, there are three things that keeps your long distance relationship alive: communication, trust and patience. No matter how far the distance may be between the two of you, the first to come to this type of relationship is communication. You got a point, at least communicating with your beau online keeps you confident but try to be more open so that when the two of you meet in person, there's nothing to hide about yourself. ;)
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• United States
2 Sep 08
Well I actually haven't been hiding much at all; nothing really to hide. We talk a lot, tell eachother a lot about our lives and everything. I'm actually surprised at how much I know about him (past, present, future lol) and how much he knows about me. And I really do like talking with him; I smile everytime I get a new email from him :)
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
My friend told me, LDR isn't really possible coz temptations comes along the way while your partner is away, but i don't think so, it will be possible, in relationship these should always be present "Trust, Patience and Understandings" if these three things are present, relationship will survive.
• Australia
2 Sep 08
LDR is possible to work depending on the couples that trust each other. Temptation is the part of testing the waters of this kind of relationship and it's up to them on how to be responsible in handling their problems that come to it. thanks for the post! ;)
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@know21 (1250)
• United States
2 Sep 08
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It will work if you really want it to work. Sometimes, always seeing a person is actually bad for a relationship because the two have a greater chance of fighting. With a long distance relationship, you can see the other person every so often, and chances are, you will both greet each other and say goodbye to each other on a good note.
@alori61 (344)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I kind of prefer long distance relationships myself. It forces you to get to know each other and be friends not just lovers. The one thing is if you decide it's going to get to a serious level eventually someone is going to have to relocate and if neither party is willing to make that move then it is a waist of time.
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• Australia
2 Sep 08
you're right, one of them has to relocate to spend time with the one they're serious with.. thanks for commenting, alori!
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
2 Sep 08
LDR is hard but great. Hard, coz you cant be with someone you love whenever you want. Great, coz it's one way of knowing the patience, loyalty and love with someone. There are advantages and disadvantages with LDR. As long as both of you are responsible to deal with it, you and your partner will be fine and happy.
• Australia
2 Sep 08
thanks for commenting jstmarfz! ;)
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
There is nothing wrong with a long distance relationship. I had my share of story too and infact he is my husband now, so it is just a matter of patient and trust with each other. If you were into a long distance relationship you must be understanding on the situation. There are certain occasions you cant be together so you have to see to it that you understand that sometimes you cant just be together and it takes time before you can be together. Sometimes it will even takes years so a lot of patient is really needed. Not to mention that you also need to trust him with all your heart. Trust is very important too specially that you cant see him 24 hours a day and you dont have any clue where is he going the moment your not anymore talking online. So it takes a lot of patient, understanding and trust to make a long distance relationship work. It is not impossible that it will last as long as you are both serious in making the relationship stronger.
• Australia
11 Sep 08
Well-said. Thank you for posting your response. I appreciate your opinion. Happy Mylotting!
• Malaysia
2 Sep 08
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;).
• United States
2 Sep 08
I am not in favor of long distance relationships ironically enough because I am currently in one now, for almost 2 years. We are not too far away though, so I believe that is what holds us together. Long distance relationships are difficult without question, but they can be worked on if both partners are dedicated, trusting, in love, and creative. Doing fun, simple things or just little efforts go a long way to keep the other person smiling and happy. My boyfriend and I have little movie dates over the phone (I know it sounds corny lol) but we enjoy it a lot. We keep in contact everyday even though I am away at school and things get a little hectic. Our strive to work at it and our love for each other keeps us going. I know that once I am finished with grad school we will definitely get to spend more time together.
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I've been in a long distance relationship once i'm here in the phil. his in canada he was an airforce. we meet here in and were so in love. his not and american his a filipino. as if we cant afford not to see each other we chat phone calls txting, thats our means of communication. he called me everyday. it lasted for a 6 months. but sad to say it ended we just don;t know but it seems hard for both of us. that we decided to stop it cause we misses each other badly.