Is staying home easier or going to work?

United States
September 3, 2008 11:52am CST
This question is for those who have children and those without, do you think life is easier being a stay at home wife/mother or going to work 8 hours a day? I'm a Stay at home wife & Mother and sometimes wish I was still working because I feel the expectation of what a SAHW&M is greater then that of one who is working full-time. What do you think?
11 responses
@starjmom (88)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Oh, absolutly easier to work! I am a sahm who also homeschools and yes, I am home all day but I am busy all day too. By the end of the day I am spent both mentally and physically. When the kids were younger I used to vie for adult conversation, when my husband would come home I would talk his ear off. He probably just wanted me to shut up since he had been at work all day lol!
• United States
6 Sep 08
LOL this sounds exactly like me I'm homeschooling and SAHM, my husband is going to school at night so I have to keep the kids all day and night and can't talk to him much when he gets home but maybe 1 hour so yes it's a lot more work staying at home then going to work, sometimes I think I should just put them in daycare and go back to work. At least I'd get to wear nice clothes and take a longer shower :) But then I realize that it is more rewarding to stay at home with the kids.
@Laura84 (191)
3 Sep 08
I don't have any children but I would be too bored staying at home so would have to have some sort of a job.
• United States
3 Sep 08
I was really bored for a while until I found things to do.
• United States
8 Sep 08
I have done both and by far i think being home all day with my son is the hardest... with that said i work in daycare so both ways are hard for me in different ways... when you stay at home you are expected to do all the house stuff plus keep up with the children. sometimes i dont think my hubby realizes how much work that can be and i only have one right now. I also find it hard to keep myself on task when im around the house since im so used to being at work its like vacation for me to be home.. took a while to get used to.. but now that i had to go back to work i miss being home with my son ...
@anita27 (90)
• India
8 Sep 08
hi 2minicoopers!!! i feel every thing ie. staying at home or working has its own pros & cons.it depends on what one thinks.well staying at home i can pay full attention to my kid ,make the whole work do by maid,keep my house clean & prepare good & tasty food.staying home or being a home minister i can take care of everything.but sometimes i feel the charm of working is different.you get your money,your identity.everyone gives you respect & importance.i worked for a month as recruiter ananlyst then i had to leave the job becoz i've small kid of 3yrs.while doing job my husband use to wait for saturday becoz it was half day.he use to plan for movie & dinner.sunday i use to do my pending work.now i'm not doing any job,the best is to work from home,you fulfill your both wishes,you get finacially independent plus you take care of each & every domestic work & your family is not neglected.
• China
5 Sep 08
I am a wife&mother on my work 8 hours a day,and my baby is 17months old.I came back to work when she is 10months old.now i holp that i can have more time to care her. I think as a woman one must have own career but not always go to work 8 hours a day.
@shooie (4989)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I am a stay at home wife I worked for years and well I married someone that came from another state so once I had my 20 years in at my job I retired so when I am of age I can collect my retirement. Some days I miss getting up and going to work because I did feel like at the end of the day my boss appreciated all I did that day. Until someone stays home to be a house wife or mom then they don't really know all that we do. (meaning our darlin hubbys} lol I feel for the stay at home moms/wife combo's because you have to tend to the kids and then make sure house work gets done and dinner on the table to keep the hairy legged one happy. They think just because you are home you have enough time in the day to do it all and keep it that way. I wasn't personally blessed with kids myself but we had my husbands 3 girls for almost 2 years and I was working and he was working and that was hard enough. I babysit for one of the girls now and if I didn't pick up here and there and do some laundry for her she would be swamped. Poor thing. So I guess going to work is easier than being a stay home mom/wife. At least you can get away from it all when you go to work....lol
@seeths (413)
4 Sep 08
I love working and that is something which I really love to do.I was working initally but then after my delivery of our first son I have stopped.It really diverts your mind but then it also differs from the nature of he job you do.I was working for an International preschool as a teacher and that really worked for me.May be I would start again next year when my son turns two. Regards
• India
4 Sep 08
i prefer to stay as housewife and do all household things happy
• Pakistan
3 Sep 08
i think staying at home is easier, but sometimes it is very frustrating routine... you need to ful fill you self actulization need if you are a very energetic person... but if you r lazy, then stay at home and dnt get out unless you need it financialy
@jmhall (143)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I don't think that either is any easy than the other. I am a SAHM of 3. This is definately not easy. Not that I do not love being home with my 3 little anges but sometimes it can be too much. Things those that do not stay at home usually do not think about is that there is greater expectation from your self and spouse regarding house work and dinner and other things that are expected of you. There is also the fact that you have no break from the kids if they are not in school and everyone needs a break at some point. Going to work is no easy task either because you work for 8 hours and are still expected to cook, clean etc around the house. So the only diffenece in staying at home and going to work is the location. Both require alot of work from you. That being said I would not change the fact the I am a SAHM. I can't imagine having to leave my kids everyday for that long of a time especially at this young age. BUt in the perfect world I would get more of a break from them but on my own terms and the house would magically clean itself:)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I don't have children and I stay at home because I have health problems and can't do physical work. I would LOVE to be able to go to work. Staying home alone all day is boring as hell.