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no. I think that is the right way to tell it to him. in my case, whenever I am not satisfied, or don't feel great by what he did, I will tell him in a nice way, and will suggest some good way. I think that we should help one another, and learn from one another so that we will both satisfied when we are making love.

yes i can tell him straight out if he no good in bed and will not beat around the bush

yes, i dont mean to hurt your feeling but baby you suck in bed

I can't say that I would try to be rude, but I have had to say something. I will tell the truth as far as performance, but never about size or weight, etc. You can suggest things along the lines of "hey! Why don't we try this? Or you can pull my hair!" I don't mean to get vulgar, just using examples. Communication can turn even the crappiest lovers into Casablanca.

Hi rosesthorns14, I would not tell him straight to his face but I will show him on how I like things to be done. But before that I'll be polite by asking him if he is alright with it. This way he'll know that his 'way' does not really 'appeal' to me. If he asks whether he is bad in bed, then i might say " no I'm not saying that, I just prefer things to be done this way cause it works with me better". There :) Happy mylotting!

I agree with this comment. It is incredibly rude and hurtful to be so blunt about a man's lovemaking. Yet, if the guy doesn't hear any feedback or suggestions he won't know his performance is lacking. Instead of attacking his lovemaking abilities, it would be a lot easier to suggest new things to try. I would probably say something like "Hey honey, I read about this new position in Cosmo and I've been dying to try it out!" I might consider making up a game where I use a magic word mid-session to signal to him that I want to change positions so I can keep things fresh and interesting. Just my 2 cents, anyway.