How Do I Bring Back The Spark In My Relationship

September 4, 2008 11:39am CST
I have been in a relationship with this girl for sometime now. There are times that she acts like a small girl when things to turn up in her favour.I have tried all I can to sustain this relationship but it it appears to me that she is slipping through my hands.I love and will want to keep despite her silly pranks.It is like she don't like me aroundf her any longer.Any one with ideas
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@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
5 Sep 08
If it feels to you like she doesn't like you any more than more than likely you are right. When things go bad in a relationship, in order to right them, both must be committed to saving it. If only one is interested it can never work. Look at it this way. If you are right then you have nothing to lose if you set her down and have a long talk. Tell her how you feel and ask her where she is with this relationship. You must prepare yourself for whatever the answer may be but you owe it to yourself to do this. If she will not be honest with you and you continue to just hope you will lose. If she has feelings for you but there is something wrong and she is afraid to talk to you about it then it will never be resolved. You both lose. One of the most important things in a relationship is communication. When that breaks down, for whatever reason, you can be assured the relationship will just continue to go bad until you start talking again. Do it for yourself. Do it for her.
14 Sep 08
Wow that was quite a good thing to share.I think she have something that she don't want to share.I have made all effort to make her split it out but she is not helping matters.She have accepted that she still loves me and will want go on with me but she is still deciding on it.I don't kniw what she is deciding and I fell that she is cross over something but I can't tell.Any ideas on how to break her.
• United States
15 Sep 08
There is one thing I have learned about relationships with women. It is a rare women that will feel good about hurting you. What she may have to say she knows may hurt you and sense she cares for you, as a friend, she can not bring herself to tell you. One thing you should know. Attraction is not a choice. In the beginning, before she knew you, there was something about you that attracted her. So she was good with it. Then as she got to know you better that feeling may have changed. For a woman to feel a strong need for a relationship she must be attracted. If she is not then you begin to fall into a friend category. Now this is not something she can help. It is either there or it is not. My first wife, prior to us getting married, told me that she was just not sure. I made the mistake of pulling on her heart strings because I was very sure. So we married. During the early years of our marriage it seemed to go okay but gradually, as she got a little older, things changed. She tried to tell me how unhappy she was but we were doing well so I could not hear it. We were married 37 years and perhaps 30 years into it I found out she had had an affair in our early years. I had not known it but I had suspected. However as we talked about it I got a very uneasy feeling there was more to it than that. She finally admitted there had not only been one, but seven. That was the most difficult time in my life. I went through crises counseling and with that I came to accept what my part in it was. As it had happened many years in the past I accepted it and we went on. Problem is that, due to life circumstances, it happened again and that was that. I do not regret the marriage as we have two great children and four grandchildren I love dearly but I can tell you this there were many reasons why that marriage should have never happened. Mostly however the fact she was not attracted to me from the beginning played a major part. She liked me, and even loved me but it was as a friend only. This may be where you are right now and you must not make the same mistake I did. I say this because any time a women has to think about continuing a relationship there is something very wrong. And there is nothing you can do to change it short of a major change in yourself, and that may not do it. Please find out where she is. It will be hard because she will not want to hurt you but you must be willing to accept that. You deserve to be happy and so does she. You are at that fork in the road that the rest of your life depends on. Please take the right path.
@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
I'm not comparing my relationship with you, but to be honest there are times that my girlfriend also do some childish stuffs and crazy pranks on me, there are times it also irritates me but most of the times I try to ride with her childishness sometimes I also do her some pranks and you know what it's kinda fun! Because I believe there's always a child in everyone of us. In your case I think your girlfriend needs some attention or she's having some problems. The best advice I cold give you is talk to her, be honest and serious while talking to her with this matter. Ask her what's wrong, tell her what does she want you to do. I think talking nicely and honestly is the best problem solver. So please prepare yourself and talk to her with this matter and try to be calm in any thing she would say that is not acceptable to you and try to understand and change if there are things she demands that won't hurt if you change it