How do you celebrate death anniversary?

my grandparents's anniversary are near the Spring Festival.so our parents ,my aunts,uncles will go to worship them together.

I believe that, if they've lived a good life, you won't have to worry about them going 'down there'. My mother passed away one year ago this past March 4. I didn't go to visit her gravesite. It's about 120 miles away from where I live so the drive alone would have been too much for me. But, the main reason I didnt' go was that it hurts too much. My grandfather, father and brother are all buried next to each other and they all share the same name. It was just too sad. I'd rather cherish the good memories that I have of them. That's how I 'celebrate'. I usually find myself feeling rather melancholy on the anniversary but, as the day progresses, I'm usually talking about the good memories I have of her.

I posted a tribute to her (my mom) in my blog. we also went and did something that she used to like to do...

i only just cry and get that person burried in grave ...

I believe that we can certainly pray for them and send our love to them beyond the grave, but ultimately, it's God's judgement, and we cannot argue with it, plea with it, bargain it, or anything else. His judgement is perfect and final. I believe that maybe getting the family together, on the phone, or in a chatroom if you're in seperate cities, or all together in a room and staying together and saying a prayer for your mom would be really nice. I don't think it needs to become a yearly ritual, but for the first year, absolutely yes!