Are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness for him/her to be happy?

Philippines
September 5, 2008 3:32pm CST
It's a quite a difficult question to answer right? But not to me. I would sacrifice my own happiness just so the one that I love could be happy. Yes! I know I am the martyr type of person. But that's just how I am. How about you? Can you give up your own happiness just for your love to be happy?
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@Browisn (782)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Hi Trish, Well, I believe I've been doing it for 37 years now. That's kinda what a good marriage requires. I think each partner has to sacrifice some personal happiness to make their partner happy.
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• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Wow! 37 long years. I'm proud of you! I wish I could find someone who could love me like that. He/She must've been so lucky to have you. Keep it up friend. God bless you!
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@Browisn (782)
• United States
6 Sep 08
LOL! I am the lucky one Trish. I would be lost without my wonderful wife... literally. I have almost no sense of direction and, as I climb into my 60's I fear that I may even be experiencing Alzheimer's. Ho ho ho! So, I depend on my first love more and more these days. We have are skirmishes too, she is jealous of everything, but its all worth it. And, as I implied earlier, I would do anything for her. Happy Mylotting my friend...
@belk89 (1105)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Relationship should be between two people who are both happy with the choices they make in there life. If your staying in the relationship that is because you are happy with that person. If your sacrificing your own happiness for the person you love then that is not anymore healthy. The more you will think about it in the future the more you will regret why you ever have given up something that would makes you happy. It should be a give and take situation. Your partner must also try to understand that you also have some certain needs and wants in life. It doesnt mean because you love the person that you would give up your happiness just to make him happy. A person who would let you give up something that means a lot to you is a selfish person. Because love is supposed to be unconditional. There is no but or if when you love somebody you should accept the person for he/she is. And that includes the things that matters most to him/her. There is nothing wrong with sacrifices but see to it that you also left some for yourself when you love someone. Giving so much to the person you love will end up making you unhappy too.
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• Philippines
6 Sep 08
As you said Love is unconditional. When I love someone, I love without asking anything in return. More often than not I tend to be selfless. I agree that when you enter in a relationship, both of you should be happy. You enter a boy-girl relationship because you want to be happy and not make your life miserable. However, there are instances wherein you need to give up your own happiness just to make your partner happy. I'll give you an example which happened to me before. I had a boyfriend for 6 years and there was a time when I felt that he is no longer happy with me so I've given him his freedom even if it would really break my heart into pieces. What good would a relationship be if one of you is not happy anymore. That kind of sacrifice is what I am talking about here. Thank you for your thoughts, I highly appreciate everything you've said here. God bless you!
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
5 Sep 08
It is very difficult question! And its hard to make a decision when you are not in the situation! But I will sacrifice for my husband if that means he will be happy. But thankfully we are not in this kind of situation.
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• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Hi Cjay77, I'm glad to see you here. I just got my first star. hihihi... It is indeed a very hard decision to make but believe it or not, I am so prone to doing this all the time. I can always be selfless and sacrifice even my own happiness just to make the person I love happy. That's just the way it is eversince I've learned to love not only to my significant other but also to my parents. I'm glad that you are very happy with your marriage and not worry about sacrificing even your own happiness.
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@besthope44 (12149)
• India
29 Aug 10
Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.
@badzvenom (102)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
For me it's unfair to sacrifice my happiness for the one I love. Relationship has to be mutual, and not one sided. I think ourselves have the right to be happy too, not just our love ones. It has to be give and take. I give up something for her, and she should also give up something for me.