Divorce rate,in your opinion why is it increasing?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
September 6, 2008 1:37pm CST
For as long as society exist people have been getting and staying married. Nowadays it seems like as soon as the honeymoon is over the marriage comes to an end. Why is so much marriage falling apart? also why is persons getting married so quickly without taking the time to get to know their partner?
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@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
7 Sep 08
id say because people are fed up and tired, and then u have dumb ones that play with the fact of divorce and get back together and then break up again that i will never understand , why run back to the reason why you got divorced in the first place ? ...
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@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
we dont have divorce here in my country. we are a catholic country. we only have annulment which will be going undergo process in year. thats why if we want to really separated legally and have another marriage it will take longer.
• United States
6 Sep 08
I believe that it is increasing but only because it has become more and more accepted in society. Back in the day people would frown upon that and look at you as possible "damaged goods" but now it seems like people praise you for not staying in a situation that makes you unhappy. There are certain cultures and religion that still frown upon it, so it hasn't changed much for them, but I think that ultimately with our time, it has gotten a better acceptance.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
For me divorce is increasing because of luck of commitment of both couple. luck of responsibily to keep there relationship intact and luck of maturity too.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I guess because individuals are very unsure of what they really want in life. They are not sure that they are ready..
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@ClassyCat (1214)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Probably because most of these folks enter into these relationships looking for what's in it for them, and thinking that they can change their spouse, if they can just get them to get married. That does not work. You have to accept one another without expecting to change someone. When you start trying to use manipulation, control, and other methods to change them, you've started a process that will always end your relationship. I always told my children to go to that boyfriend or girlfriend's home - watch how they treat their parents - sisters - brothers. That's how you'll be treated eventually. Can you live with that? Many times a guy will look for someone who is similar to their mom, and a girl will look for someone that is similar to her dad too. If you don't like her or his parents, the trouble has already begun, even before the marriage. So many have attitudes and don't expect anyone to react to them when they are hateful or purely old selfishness. Take longer for the courtship - if it's REAL love - it'll last. If not - you'll save yourself going through a painful divorce, and God forbid - - bringing innocent children into the mix.
@AmbiePam (45049)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I think a lot of people just don't think of marriage as forever. They always have that safety net of divorce. Now to people in an abusive marriage, or their spouse has cheated on them, I think sometimes divorce is the only answer. But our society has gotten in our heads that love is a 'feeling', and we all know feelings change. Love with marriage is a committment, that no matter what the bad times, you're still going to be hanging in their with the other person. My parents have seen horrible times, yet this brought them closer, not further apart. They put God first, and each other second. And with that combination, they have stayed together 33 years. My grandparents have been together 53 years. Right now my grandma is watching my grandpa die from dementia, very slowly. She gets through it only by God. It's not like everything is fairy tale and fine when we put God first. That doesn't happen. But we know we're never alone. God is totally committed to us. We just seem to be disconnected with Him, and as a result, disconnected with each other.
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@Jul14nch0 (1414)
• Argentina
6 Sep 08
Becouse these days a lot of people just look for atractive partners, aand then they marry, then they realize they dont really love theyr partner so they get divorced and search for another one really quik? Just one tought
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@heaven11 (1161)
• United States
6 Sep 08
the way i figure is there are many reason such as getting married young they think they were never truely able to explore other opertunites,they do it for fincial reason because it seems many people these days have to have money other than to pay bills,people dont want responbility,and a lot of people auctually blame it on socity
• Canada
6 Sep 08
I feel the divorce rate is so high just because like you said so many people are not taking the time to make sure they are truely in love with the person they are with before they are walking down the isle . They are in love with the idea of being in love and not taking the time to make sure that this is someone they would like to spend the rest of their life with . Marriage is a commitment between two people that are willing to both work at the relaionship and often times people are too quick to give up rather then taking the time to make it work and this is because they didn't take the time to get to know each other well enough to begin with . Also today it is so common place to hear that someone was married not once but four or five times that people don't give it much thought making it easier to do . Once you have one failed marriage and then another , what is one more , two more or three more . I wanted to make sure when I got married that I would do all I could to make my marriage work . I did not jump into something without getting to know who I was with . My husband and I have been together for 19 years now and knew each other for 10 years before we ever tied the knot . We were very young when we got together and had a couple of children before we ever agreed to finally marry . I have told my children I would much prefer them to live with someone then to rush into an early marriage .
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