step families

United States
September 6, 2008 6:51pm CST
I attended a wedding today that had such a long list of parents and grandparents, brothers and sisters it was unreal. The brides parents had each remarried, the grooms parents had each remarried and one set of grandparents had each remarried. Bring in the step grandparents and all the brothers and sisters and "step" brothers and sisters, etc. and the list just goes on and on. On top of that the bride was escorted down the aisle by her father and her "step" father who has only been in the family for a few short years. I thought that was just a little too much. Most likely the bride was just trying to get along with all, but I think that the step should have declined nicely and let the father do it. I know our society today is made up of extended families, but sometimes it gets to be mind boggling trying to keep it all straight. As far as weddings are concerned, it is nice to include your extended family as much as you can, but I guess I am still a traditionalist and think that the original mother and father should give the bride away (which they didn't in this case) and step parents should step aside. What do you think?
3 responses
@pam210 (345)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I guess it all depends on what the bride wanted and if the family was comfortable with it. I know that I am dreading the day one of my daughters gets married because I don't know if my ex and I can be civil to each other after all of these years. I think it is great that the father and the step father got along enough to walk the bride down the aisle. Unfortunately today families that have step parents and step siblings and half siblings are very common. I have 2 step kids, 2 kids of my own with my ex and then 2 kids with my husband. My little kids think it is strange that some people only have 1 brother or sister. My husband grew up with a step mom and half brothers and sister and he never saw them, was close to them and they don't talk today. Our kids have been together so long that you can't tell who are the siblings and who are the steps. They are all just brother and sister so I am sure when we start having weddings in a few years they will all be included. We just have to figure out how to have the parents get along and we will be fine.
• United States
7 Sep 08
I guess nowadays step families are more of a norm than not. I hope you can figure out how to get the parents to get along at least long enough to get the kids married! Best wishes!
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
7 Sep 08
It is a weird sotry! In my culture, it is not possible anyway! Thus I don't know what shoud be.
• United States
7 Sep 08
I guess every culture has their own way of doing things. Best wishes to you!
• Canada
7 Sep 08
This family sounds very much like my family lol . My father has remarried and my husband father has remarried . So we have step on both side as well as I have half brothers from another marriage by my dad . I love my step mother very much but she has never tried to take the place of my mother at any time and is very quick to step down when anything like that happens . When I got married I had only my father walk me down the aisle and that is the only way I would have had it . I love my extended family as I am closer to them then then the rest of my family but they are always so good not to over step any boundries . My husbands family is not that way though and his step mother is always trying to step in and act like she should do everything which really bothers his real mother . She finds it especially hard with the grandkids as she doesn't like the way the step mother acts like she is more the grandmother then the real grandmother .
• United States
7 Sep 08
My ex-husbands step mother really is more of a grandmother to my kids than their real grandmothers! I guess you never know how people will act when it comes to step families. Thanks for your input.