how do i let go

you need to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.it is not only unhealthy for you but her to .she really does need friends of her own it does not even have to be her age just some friends of her own.

hi, i guess that is real sad. She is your mother at the end of the day at the same time i do agree that you do need your own space. WHy dont you sit her down and have a chat. YOu could leave some time out for her and take her out too....but you can also talk to her about you needing your own space to go out on your own. The best thing to do is talk about it...

Have your tried talking to your mom and telling her how this is making you feel ? I know this would be hard and you are worried about hurting your moms feelings but at the same time she would probably be just as upset if she realized how this was affecting you and that it was her fault . Mom's want to be there for their children all the time and some moms have a really hard time letting go of their babies , no matter the age . Do you know anyone you could introduce her to ? I am sure she doesn't realize the effect this is causing your relationship but if you become depressed over this it will only make things worse . Just as with your friends you can't have someone hang around you constantly and she has to realize this herself . Best of Luck , wish I could offer you more and Welcome to Mylot as I see you are new on here :)

Time to take Mom to some community classes. YOU go with her. Sign up for cooking, crafts, exercise, anything! Keep going until Mom is hooked on a class (or the good friends she meets there). You will have to hold back... let Mom be the star. You just be her driver. Eventually, she will be "engaged" in one of these classes and, well, you may have to keep driving her.... but she can still be the star and give you updates on what is happening in her "new life." Just as your mom once had to introduce you to new activities, you have to be patient in helping her "adopt and adapt" as she tries out new pursuits. (And on the subject of "pursuits," be away that the more you hide from your mom, the more insistently she will pursue you.) Don't expect immediate results. You may have to invest some months or even a year in helping your mom develop new interests. But the rewards will be great for the BOTH of you for the rest of your lives.