Some ex-girlfriend of your husband/boyfriend wants to meet him

Philippines
September 9, 2008 5:41pm CST
What would you do? Let's say, she is already married and obviously, her husband doesn't know anything about her calling your man. She said, after knowing that he's back in their hometown that she wants/needs help from him on something that anybody could do. She keeps on calling your man, until one day she said she's infront of the house (and you don't know this yet) and wants to see your man. So they meet, just a little chat while she's in her car and your man is just by the sidewalk. THen your man told you, you called her and ask what she wants, and she said sorry, blah blah, and never calls again. What do you think does she really want from him? And btw, she's five months pregnant that time with her third child.
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• Canada
10 Sep 08
I think my first reaction would be who is the father of this baby . It does seem a little odd that she would want to see him after all this time and was pregnant and with someone else and out of the blue she decides she wants to just see him again for no apparaent reasons . I would be making it clear that she wasn't welcome that your man has found someone else and obviously she is with someone else and starting a life with them and that it was nice to meet her but you don't care to see her again and would be letting my man know this as well .
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Well said there. I just wasn't able to see her, just called her though. I invited her to come over, telling her that she should come so we could talk about what she really wants, but she declined. She never called my husband again. And perhaps, in the future, i would want to see how she looks like, and i want her to see how i look like too, and what kind of woman i am.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Did this actually happen to you?
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I'm sorry. This discussion question came directly to my e-mail and there is no option there to read the other responses. There is only one to post a comment. I apologize.
• United States
10 Sep 08
Did you ask the woman what she wants ? Maybe she really just needs help from your husband ? Being his ex does not mean that if they met she wants to get back with him or wants to have relationship with him again. Just the fact that she went to your house, I don't think she is that crazy if she wanted to get your man ! Good thing there is that your husband told you about it, so it means that he has no intention whatsoever towards this woman. Talk to your husband and ask him why ? if she needs help, you talked about it. If you think and feel that you want to help, but if you have doubts on her intention, then dont. My husband once told me that his ex wanted to meet, I asked him do you want to go ? He said yes but not alone, (they have unfinished bussiness by then) so I told him to go. I told him I trust you and finnish whatever you have with her and be done with it. Turns out ok, he told me what they talked about and im happy to see that he has unloaded that burden in his shoulder. Be happy that you have a good man beside you, trust him and talk to him. or maybe you could even talk to the woman ?
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
HI Melanie. I talked to the woman. My husband gave me her number and told me to call her so i could clear up whatever's bothering me. I asked her what she wants and why she did not go inside the house?...is she ashamed, or what?....and didn't she want to see the wife of her ex?, etc. She gave a nervous laugh, and asked if i was angry. Why would i be? i asked her. I could not remember the rest of the conversation but she did not call my husband, ever, afterwards. But she called my sister in law and asked if my husband was beside me when i called her. SO what do you think now of this? And the help she said she wanted was about some visa for her sister, or something. I wonder why didn't she ask her husband or a thousand people in this country while we were not here yet?
@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Is she nuts!!! unless the father of the child is your husband and they are trying to hide this from you. Anyway, In a relationship two has to share specially when it comes to things like this. There is no exception on this one. Wither its gonna hurt or not you must not keep it your self otherwise trust will start to get lost and lost trust is very hard to restore and even if it comes back its never the same.
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I guess she is really nuts. I mean, she is married and have two kids, with another one on the way (which i am 100 percent sure is not my husband's) and she could have asked anyone for whatever help she said she needs from my man. Probably she missed him, or is just curious to know what has become of the life of the man she went out with for 10 years, and haven't seen for the past four years. I don't know, but until now i still don't get it. But i know that my husband's honest to me.