annulment and the future...
September 9, 2008 9:02pm CST
a friend of mine has had a platonic relationship with her husband for over a year now. she stays with her hubby only because of her son's request. but recently she feels that she can not live like that anymore and she needs to move on. she does not feel that there is love, respect and trust in the relationship at anymore. a few days ago she had a phone call from a friend of hers during college days. the friend frankly told her that he is interested in her and wants their relationship to become permanent, like marriage at the end. right now she is in the process of getting an annulment from her husband. she is confuse though whether she will give the friend a chance. her fear is that she will get hurt again or the guy is just playing with her since the guy has a reputation for being a bit of a playboy. last night me and a couple of our friends were together and trying to give her some advices. maybe some of you have had the same experience. any advices you can share? tnx ^_^
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10 Sep 08
We should never get tired nor afraid of loving all over again. But it doesn't mean we have the right to do things we wanted even in the expense of others for the sake of love. We should consider things also before making any major decisions. Love can wait. We need to clear things out first. Put everything in proper order. Before love could be set free.
• United States
10 Sep 08
While it is sweet that your friend was trying to honor her son's wishes, she certainly should not stay with a man that she does not trust or feel passionate about anymore. I can tell you from experience that everyone will say that it is way too soon to get into a new relationship and that divorce is very emotional and takes time to get over. While all of that is true, I personally did not take time after my own divorce before I started dating seriously again. My husband and I were living more as roommates for over a year, and when I finally decided it was over, I was truly ready to move on. Everyone told me to wait before getting involved with this other man that I was interested in, but my heart told me to go for it, and I did. A year and half later, I am engaged and going to marry that same man that I started dating shortly after my divorce, and it is the best love I could have ever imagined. If your friend is ready to move on, she needs to do it, and not delay. Life is short. However, until she gets a better idea of how this new guy will treat her or love her, she shouldn't commit to anything permanent just yet. I say, date him and see what happens. Time will tell if he is the right guy for her or not. She should definitely be upfront with him about her fears and what she is going through. If he sticks around and stays faithful, she should give him a chance, no matter what mistakes he might have made in the past.