Bonding problems?

September 11, 2008 9:01am CST
When I had my first child, she was almost 2 weeks late, and when I finally ws induced, I needed a Caesarean. Although everyone was wonderful, a few of my friends and family mentioned what a shame it was that I hadn't experienced the wonder of a natural childbirth. Everything went on as normal, I was breast-feeding and I didn't think much of it until I had to go back to the hospital for my baby to have an exam on her hips. While I was there I saw another mum who had had her baby on the same day as me. We got talking and she said how sad she was that she hadn't been able to breastfeed her baby and how she had had a Caesarean and that she obviously wasn't a very natural mother. We talked a bit more and went off for our respective tests, but what she said really struck me. Until that moment, I hadn't realised that I had thought of myself as a bit of failure as a mum. Everyone else in my family had had natural births and although I was feeling a bit down I didn't realise that I had not been as close with my baby because of it. That night, I sat down and thought about how this other lady had managed to laugh it all off and still bond with her baby. I held my little beautiful girl very close that night, and ever since really. I just wondered if anyone else had been affected by a throw away comment.
1 response
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
11 Sep 08
Giving birth by cesarean IS natural nowadays, notwithstanding what other people might think. You spend 9 month with your baby in your belly, don't feel the way you feel because of a minor detail, I'm sure she's just gorgeous!
• Spain
11 Sep 08
I absolutely agree now, but I think it wasn't even a conscious thing, so I didn't realise that I was pushing her away. Thanks though.