Christian marrying a non Christian

United States
September 11, 2008 9:58am CST
Hi, I would love your thoughts and advice. It seems a family memeber plans on marrying a non Christian, she says she is a Christian. So how should I handle this? I know I need to love and support her. But I also know the dangers of being unequally yoked. So what do you all think? God bless, Leofa
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7 responses
• United States
11 Sep 08
well the bible does say you should not marry a non christian. the best thing you can do is just support her. if she really is a christian and know the word and she still chooses to marry him then it's her decision. you can't make her change her mind you can only be there for her. she may think that once they are married he might change but it usually doesn't happen that way.
• United States
11 Sep 08
The bible says you can marry a non christian. it says it is okay. i dont remember which part it was in but i do remember reading it not to long ago. i will look it up and see where it is. If you are really in love with the person then marry her. i dont know what makes your family think she is not a christian but maybe you should sit down and talk with them about it.
• United States
11 Sep 08
churches frown on marrying non-christians...they call it something like missionary dating or something like that.
@bxsage1 (32)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I am not sure, but I believe that there is a passage stating that if 2 should marry unequally yoked that one shall be made right by the other or something to that affect. What I will say is that to tell your family member to hold fast to the faith and live by righteousness, not her own. But the righteousness found in Jesus Christ. Because only by being a living example can the one they marry have a living testimony before them and hopefully become right before the Lord. I remember a scripture that says "I have the heart of kings in my hand, and I move them this way and that". In other words, God is in control at all times especially when you invite Him into your life. 100%. Just a thought.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Honestly it her decision not yours so give her the love and support. You can mention your concerns as far as her being unequally yoke and if she says things will work out have faith that they will. She has made the decision and support her in it, you cannot try to change her mind that might cause tension between the two of you. Give her support and pray everything works out for the best.
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
11 Sep 08
What ever you do be very careful you don't offend her. My advice is to be as nice as you can to her and let your light shine for her to see. At this point you can't tell her anything but she will believe what she sees with her own eyes. You just strike a deal with God that with his help you will do your best and then ask him to handle the rest. God is ready and willing to do things for you that will increase your faith in him . Also remember God works on a barter system. If we are willing to give to him then he is more than ready to give to us. Many times if we are just willing to give God our attention that is enough for Him. Inside every young person like that there is a good Christian just waiting to come out. It's our Job to serve as a human body that God can freely use to make things like that happen.
@chaijudin (506)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 08
well is your own choice , you must dare to take your faith , deepen on God , yes is not easy as i said here , me too have almost same problem like you . until now my parents still force me to marry with someone they choose and no one on my family is a christian . so you are not alone now :-) just remember prayer make a change!
@rortiz86 (1697)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I think, it doesn't matter anymore. I'm a roman catholic myself. But religion doesn't saves man from his world, rather it's faith that will save him. Forget those who talks about interferences of religion they know nothing. It's ok as long as we believe in the same GOD. Have Faith.
@roanne05 (1290)
• Oman
11 Sep 08
the only question there is who will be giving-up the religion that he/she had grown-up with???that believe with since birth???you are correct that in order to grow,,,they should also have the same faith...but, who will give in???also after deciding who will give in...can that person really embrace the new religion he/she had newly acquired???these are just some of the things that should be thought of...but they can be happy if one would give in...Good Luck...