Are u jealous of someone who is not supposed to be better than u?

China
September 12, 2008 8:26am CST
I feel so jealous of my former roommate that I am having pain in my chest. It is not meant to be though! Anyway, I ought to be happy for her since she is my best friend as well. However, I really can't control myself. She sent me lots of pictures of UCLA, which is one of the most famous universtiy in the United states. I felt blue to see the pictures. We keep in touch with each other. So, she always shares his happiness with me. But even as I got the picutres, I didn't know why I was so upset. I hate my jealousy. Life doesn't always turn the way that I want. I did better when we were in a same university. But she got the offer first and flied away! I should be happy but I am not. Thus I am not a true friend indeed. I really feel guilty though. If we are all the same, all any of us needs is luck. Why she is luckier? I will change my mind anyway. Good for my roommates. But I am still out sorts. What about u? Have u ever done this before?
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 08
Well, jealousy is something that would happen if someone feel inferior from someone else or you are not satisfied with what you had and you want more. Or both at once. It would be very difficult to erase, the feeling, because it is on your mind, and your heart. You might be able to think that you are better than her, but your heart doesn't let you satisfied about that. You might feel that your are happier, but your mind keep telling you that she has something that you don't have. I always be told, that people are unique. They have something that other people don't have not because they are better than you. It was because they are not better, so they are given more tools to face the life.
• China
12 Sep 08
I appreciate your kind response. I called another roommate just now. I felt a little better. Now, When I saw ur response, I really think it is reasonable. However, I am still a litte upset and gonna sleep. Tomorrow is another day. I hope that the jealousy won't last long. I am involuntarily to be sad. God! Have a great day!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 08
Good luck dealing with your jealousy. I would love to hear the good news. It is good to know that you have felt a little better, and don't be upset, there are many things to be enjoyed in this world so you don't have to focus on her :) Good luck, and have a nice day :)
@Amagnimo (637)
• India
13 Sep 08
I feel for you a lot. You are a very good friend. That is because you accept guilt, you accept that you are bad - and that's the sign of good friend. When a friend accepts his faults in his friendship, and regrets over it, it means, the friend is worth! Of great worth. I don't care if the other person is upset with you or not, but I am definitely going to say that you are a lot good. Because, you hate jealousy, you are no far from expelling it out. you both have been together for years as roommates, right? Then, ofcourse, you shouldn't be at all jealous. In fact, I should be jealous for you, that you had someone. I cherish it for you. I don't know, why I am getting so emotional for you, but really. You must never regret life. Take this event positively. You agree that jealousy is a bad thing, a bad trait, must be removed from its roots, right? You believe in God, I know that very well. Then believe this fact - God let this happen for you. God knew about the jealousy thing in you, he knew you don't really want it, you will feel the guilt, and so, he prized you with this opportunity. Now is your turn to remove the thing like jealousy from your life by keeping on practicing good thoughts over her success. Consider yourself being equally successful or more. You will also see good. Please, just be positive, and you will see that how much the world is positive. I believe that the world always turn for good. I am over cent per cent sure for you that you will have something better in future. I am not consoling you, but I am telling this from my experience. I always have tried to be positive, and its always the god's grace that I stay so sturdy in this world. When I was a depressed person (yea, i really was) when people used to ignore me, abuse me, etc. I never thought any good. But God knew it the best. He did that so that I could fight it and that was for permanent. I would now never fall back into that situation. I'll always crave to be positive. Take criticism as compliments to improve. Be good to all, and if I fail, I must improve. I can't express how much is the god's grace. But I feel it the same for you. Luck is nothing but grace of god, and its always there. The only thing required are the eyes to see how much you are gaining even from that negative event. It really has brought wonderous thoughts, and when I think of thanking god, I am acutally with tears to say that "you have always been with me in everything, I hope I am on the path that you want me to fall into"! Everything in my life is God's grace. I dont know how many could really accept this, rationalism wouldn't allow it, but if you see the way I put it, I believe I am rational too.
• China
13 Sep 08
How can I ever repay your kind response. It is reasonable. Thanks a lot, really! The tomorrow will bring better news. Good for u!
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@Amagnimo (637)
• India
13 Sep 08
I am so glad that it helped you. I'll tell you one more thing, before writing, I prayed that may be this reply helps you. I am really glad for you. Good Luck for every improving life that you are gonna life! Happy Mylotting. Nemo
• China
13 Sep 08
Yeah, all right, it helps. Each endeavor of u will be a great success
@msedge (4012)
• United States
30 Sep 08
The feeling of jealousy is normal.The good thing is you know it was wrong and you admit it.We all lucky to be a human being so its not yet your time.You will have your time.ZFor the meantime just be happy and enjoy your life as it is.
• China
30 Sep 08
Thanks for your kind words. I am waiting for my time, which will soon come, I guess. Have a nice day.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Dec 08
Your welcome!