Am I crazy or just a typical mommy?

@makingpots (11928)
United States
September 12, 2008 11:20am CST
I was prepared to pass up a relaxing getaway weekend trip that my husband wants to give me because I don't want to miss one of my son's T-ball games. As I sit here watching Hurricane Ike prepare to hit in our area it occurs to me that his T-ball game for this week will likely be rained out. It had not even crossed my mind that I could be passing up an awesome trip only to have his game cancelled for some reason. I am going to go on the trip after all. But due to insisting I see the game first and fly out afterwards, I have caused us a lot of trouble, and even a little more money than. Am I just being silly or would any mommy feel the way I'm feeling about this?
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Hi makingpots... You are just being a mommy...That T-ball game is very important to you and it is great that you don't want to miss it..It may not get rained out and then you would be upset because you did miss it... I do the "kids before me" all the time...My two grandsons (6 and 4) always come first...Matter a fact my two, ages 25 and 20 still seem to come first....*smiles*... I am glad that you will be going and hopefully beable to see the game as well... In the long run you will be glad you made the choices you did... Have a great time..I hope your son wins the game and please stay safe with Ike being so dangerous....
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Thanks, Feona. It's funny how that "kids before me" thing just comes to naturally. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 Sep 08
so naturally..... not 'to' naturally (or too)
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I wouldn't have it any other way...*smiles*
@indiandevil (2100)
• Rothesay, New Brunswick
12 Sep 08
Nah, any good mother puts there children first, no matter what it is. There is nothing silly about that, and anyone who says so, must not have children of their own.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Thanks, indiandevil.
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I don't think you are silly at all. You are a good person. I would want to see the game as well. However, and this is just me, I would have gone on the trip. Especially if a hurricane of Ike's magnitude was heading in my general direction. This way, you are not missing his game (assuming kids were going with you on this trip) and you would be evacuating a possibly deadly area (not sure what part of Texas you are in) But over all.. you are not being silly. You are being a great mom and your kids will be thankful later in life
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Thanks for the very nice response. The trip is not planned for this weekend. We will be here riding out the storm. Surely this weeks game will be cancelled which got me thinking that something, anything, could happen to cancel the game on the weekend of the trip too. But I followed my gut on this one. It usually serves me well when I do that. We are far enough in north Texas that we are not likely to see deadly effects. We will be getting mostly reminant weather. Our area is dealing more with the over flow of evacuees from the coastal region. You kind message has made my day. :)
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I'm with you makingpots! I have two boys, 13 and 9. Do you know how many, T-ball, Soccer, Basketball, Martial Arts, Hockey, etc. games that equals. I am proud to say the only games I missed are the ones when we had a conflict...same day and time but different location between the two boys. We would have to split up. Other than that I have not missed a game and I don't plan to. Thanks for asking.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Haha, that's a lot of games. I have a friend with four boys. Conflicting schedules is her life. She and her husband handle it beautifully. She laughs and says, 'that's why God made video recorders'. They own two. Haha Thanks for the response.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I don't believe it's silly to want to be there for your son. Kids enjoy seeing their parents in the stands while they do things (sports, recitals,etc). I've heard lots of stories from adults who did things as a child and their parents weren't there. I know some may say, "It's just one game" but what if that's the game he hits the scoring ball or catches a crazy hit that saves the game. I wouldn't want to miss that even if it does cost a few extra dollars. You can't put a price on that.
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
12 Sep 08
You are so right. Thank you for responding.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I can understand your conflict. A child only plays T-Ball once but you also have to look at other factors such as family and relationships. I would say dont make a big deal. There are a lot of things and one or two games won't matter.
• China
13 Sep 08
congratulatin!!!!you are a child's mother,that's the wonderful thing in the world. i think it's a hard thing for us to choice.no matter what you choose i think you have choose the right choice.just trust you,dont regret what you have done.
• United States
13 Sep 08
with 2020 hindsight I see things a bit differently. There will be years of different sports activities and plays and such. Then one day your son will be grown-up and gone and he will not remember or care if you missed any of his games. Hopefully your husband will still be there. Remember that it is important to make time as a couple too. Some parents get so wrapped up in pushing their kids into so many different directions they forget to live their own lives and end up strangers when the nest is empty.
@cupid74 (11397)
• Pakistan
13 Sep 08
Hi dear i think u did right its not typical momy or ur feeling but its feeling of ur son as well i am sure he must have boosted morales when u will be watching him in game So i am with u Well done Byeee
• India
13 Sep 08
its natural for a parents to care about their children because thats what is called bonding between parent and child. If the children observe that their parents cheers for their games then they gain a thought of acceptance and they think that their parents are supportive . So this habit shld be inspired not think of insanely. I wish ur bst and may god bless u.
• United States
13 Sep 08
Sounds like a normal amount of angst as parents figure out what priorities to set. Over the years, you will take some trips and forego some trips. You'll make some games and miss some, too. I hope that along the way you'll think of yourself as much as you obviously think of your family. The trips are the obvious examples, but don't forget to build in small events, as well. I found enjoyment in going off to movies by myself, maybe just once a month when the kids were small, but more and more frequently as they aged. Today, it's a pleasant once-a-week outing. And I found out that my alone time was actually great modeling! My daughter says it made her realize that women can have their own social events and that a solitary event counts for that.