Do friends 'treat' each other?

@mimico (3619)
Philippines
September 13, 2008 10:39pm CST
I've been having dinner with different groups of friends for the last couple of weeks. Every time we'd pay, we go dutch. As in we pay for whatever we order. Just last night, as we were about to pay, one of my friends offered to foot the bill because "we were all friends." This got me thinking: do you treat your friends to dinner even when it's not your birthday just because they're your friends? If one person treats the other and the other treats the other person in return then doesn't it just cancel out eventually?
3 responses
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Sep 08
Yes I do, treat my friends when I can. They too treat me sometimes. I guess, this practice is just natural especially for me and my best friend. What really happens to us is that, when we treat each other, we don't list the times that we do it. We treat each other when we can and we don't when we can't. When we spend a little amount for each other, we don't really care about it anymore. All I know is that when I treat her, I also enjoy the feeling that in some little way, I am making her feel important too.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Hi shanemre! I'm envious that you have such a close relationship with your best friend that you are happy when you treat him or her. I only feel that way if I get to buy things for my family. When it comes to my friends I always look at the price tag first then think about it. I know it's really unhealthy. I'm glad to hear about your opinions on this because now I'm starting to reevaluate myself as a friend. I think I desperately need improvement in the friendship department. :P
@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 08
I do treat my friends sometimes when we went out for drinks. Me and my colleague treat each other too. Everyone will take turn to treat, we don't force, we just do it because we love to. When we treat, we don't aspect for return, we treat because we want to. (",)
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Hi, thanks for responding. It's really reinforcing in a positive way that you guys feel generous towards your friends. I guess I'm not in a very comfortable situation with some of my friends if I can't open my wallet freely without expecting things in return. It also has something to do with me not having enough money. Perhaps when I have a full time job I can be more generous. :)
@iskayz (5424)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Hi there! Yes I do treat my friends sometimes. But it depends, if I am with few friends only say 1 - 3 friends then its ok cause it won't be too expensive. If we happen to be in big groups then its a dutch treat. Treating friends isn't an obligation between friendships. Its actually a matter of personal choice whenever you go out and dine with friends. There are people who likes to treat friends always. Especially those who have lots of money hehe! With regards to your question about treating the other and then eventually the other friend will treat in return, its a way of saying thank you. Ciao!