Will you still call her friend after stilling your BF?
September 14, 2008 8:48pm CST
I often hear this when I go back to Philippines from my friends. (She still her BF thats why they have fight before but they are friends again) Is this really happening? I cant believe people can do this to their friends. Would you be friend still to your friend after she still your BF? Why? Happy Myloting
• United States
15 Sep 08
I never had my boyfriend stolen, but I DID steal my friend's boyfriend. Before you start throwing the rocks, though ;) hear me out! I HATED the guy when she started dating him. But then, through some crazy school scheduling, he and I ended up being the only people from our group in the same lunch period. So we got to know each other. Before I knew it, I was in love with him. And I was MISERABLE about it. To make matters worse, he had feelings for me too. I figured he was only falling for me because of problems in their relationship, so I tried to FIX their relationship. I failed. We finally told her what was going on, because I felt very strongly that she had a right to know. We forced him to choose. He chose me. It broke my heart to hurt my friend. She was mad for...oh...about a month. Then she realized I hadn't set out to steal him or hurt her, and that he and I were actually a better match. She was one of my bridesmaids when I married the boy three years later. So after all that, when it comes to friends stealing boyfriends, I say consider the circumstances and intent first. Was it intentional? Was it malicious? Or was it accidental, caused by feelings completely out of their control? Were they honest, or did they lie? Etc. The latter should be forgiven after a time...the former should have rocks thrown at her, lol.
15 Sep 08
Well regarding friends who steal a friends boyfriend...it really depends on the situation.In a relationship it takes two to tango.So there must be some reasons why the guy left the girl and chose to be with the friend.Though it's not appropriate and not right we should hear the story behind the switching.And then I will know if the other deserves forgiveness or not,if she is worthy of my friendship.