Is it annoying to be asked by your partner if u are cheating on him/her?

Malaysia
September 15, 2008 4:46am CST
My friend told me that she always ask her bf whether he is cheating on her and I told her that it will be annoying for him as it will be a sign of not trusting him. She said that if he had asked her, she will feel good because when there is jealousy means her bf is scared of losing her. But, according to her, her bf do not ask her but instead tell her that a lot of girls are chasing after him. I personally think that her bf is just trying to make her try harder to keep him. WHat do you think?
3 responses
@redchase (347)
16 Sep 08
my bf does this to me all the time and he says it means nothing. i dont believe that though. if you honestly dont think your partner is cheating on you, why would you ask them if they were? for fun? i dont think so. if you ask its because you have doubt and an insecurity and i'll tell you, as the other person in the relationship, it makes it hard for things to work when you know your partner doesnt have a bit of trust in you. it almost makes me want to go out and do that just so that i can say "yes, im cheating on you, are you happy?" i think that if there is jealousy in a relationship that means that one of you isnt completely and emotionally where you should be in order to sustain a good relationship. i mean a tiny bit is alright but never to the point where you have to ask your partner things like that and make them doubt the so called trust you have in them.
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• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
My friend ask her bf all the time and worries that her bf never asked her the same question. She says her bf seems to not care that she falls for another guy. What do you think of this? Do you feel the same way?
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@redchase (347)
16 Sep 08
i think your friend likes the jealousy and thats all there is to it. i dont think theres anything wrong with her bf. he's just secure with what he's got. he knows that she cares for him and wouldnt leave him or she hasnt given him a reason to not trust her. he as trust in her and she does not. im sure he shows her in other ways that he cares about her. its just not the same way she does it.
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• Malaysia
19 Sep 08
I agree with you. It's just that she feels that her bf not being jealous is a sign that her bf doesn't care if she cheated. I think she is paranoid. ^^
@subha12 (18463)
• India
16 Sep 08
it is annoying. if you ask the partner, that means whether the person cheats or not, its taken for granted, you do not trust him/her.so it is negative thing i think.
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• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
Hurmmm... I think as a girl, we can get really insecure and when you get insecure there's 2 ways to relieve the insecurity which are 1. ask our partner 2. hire a private investigator or investigate ourselves. Is there any way to relieve us from this insecurity?
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@arnoldream (1332)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
of course it does for me, however other people have that niche or what they call it funny feeling whenever their partner is asking this question.it goes the other way around with each person perspective or outlook with this issue. if you try doing so with your b.f and didn't like it better not do it again or he may got fed up with your so called malicious accusation...happy day!
• Malaysia
15 Sep 08
Hmmmm.. Yes I agree with ya.. Do you feel that he doesnt care if he never asked you at all?
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