Reaction to changes-Daughter more clingy
September 15, 2008 11:40pm CST
I recently started a full time job in addition to keeping my part time jobs so I know I am not home as much as I used to be. Also school has started which always brings changes, especially now that daughter is a Freshman in High School. Her brother graduated in May so he isn't in school with her any more either. So now it seems to me that my 14 year old is reacting to these changes in her life by being more clingy to me and always wanting me to brush her hair or scratch her back, etc. I still try to be with her as much as possible and I love to sit by her but I injured my arm in January and it gets sore easily so I get tired of brushing her hair. Also I am more tired and would just like to sit with her in the big recliner. She has also been sick alot as she has a chronic disease so I suppose that could be another reason for the clinginess and neediness. Do you suppose this is a normal behavior??
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3 Oct 08
This is definitely normal. She was used to you being there all the time and now that you are not she misses you terribly. One could only wish to have a relationship as close as that with a young teen daughter. You are a lucky woman!
16 Sep 08
Yes to me all this sounds very normal . She has had a lot of changes in her life in the last little while and she still is a little girl as she is only 14 . She justs needs to know that you are still there for her and you are showing her this . Give her some time and she will adjust . It is the same for us when we go through a lot of chances in a short period of time . Although we may not cling to someone in the sence that your daughter is clinging to you we still do cling to our friendships that we have by needing to talk about it or to our family by needing to visit more often with them or even with our partner by needing them to just hold us a little longer then they would have when things were not so different . As long as she knows you are there for her she will gradually be less clingy as things become more normal in the household again and a more normal routine is once again . Take Care