Are you a multi-cultural couple?

@rocketj1 (6955)
United States
September 16, 2008 10:03pm CST
I have started many discussions concerning married couples. In all the responses, I have noticed a large number of people (mostly women) who talk about the cultural differences between themselves and their spouses. MyLot seems to be full of multi-cultural married couples. Are you one of these couples? Where are you from? Where is your spouse from? How did you meet? Which country do you live in (yours or his or someplace else)? Are you happy with your choice and would you recommend it to others? Please help me. I find it very fascinating!
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@Humbug25 (12540)
17 Sep 08
Hello rocketj1 Well I am English and was married (well I still am as we haven't gone through a divorce) to a Lebanese man. I found the whole relationship to be abusive and after 10 years of marriage I found that I had no choice after a certain incident but to flee with my three children to a women's refuge. I don't know if it is acceptable to be treated by your husband in such a manner in Lebanon but I coulnd't take anymore abuse from him and had to leave.
@Humbug25 (12540)
17 Sep 08
That was 2 years ago now and we live somewhere where I don't think he will find us but we have a great life now and have done more in the last 2 years than I did in the 10 years of marriage as I wasn't permitted to do a lot of things that I would consider normal, or the children.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I'm so happy for you:) Keep lovin' those kids!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Wow! I'm very glad for you that you stuck up for yourself and didn't take anymore of the crap from him! Your children don't deserve a father like that! I pray that all is going well for you now:) thank you:)
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@VE3IYB (209)
• Canada
27 Sep 08
Well lets see, yes we are one of THOSE couples. I am a Canuck Eh? My wife is from the Philippines Eh? We met at a bible study when one of the people could not drive my to be wife home. We live in Canada Eh? The story is that I prayed about meeting someone. About a month or two later I ended up at the bible study that my to be wife would be at. It was probably 6 months or so after that, that we were married!
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Did you struggle at times to relate to each others cultures?
@VE3IYB (209)
• Canada
27 Sep 08
Yes there are cultural differences but I have good benchmarks. My parents have been married for 45 years. I have Aunts and Uncles that have been married going on 50 years. My grandparents were married some 60+ years. There are cultural differences but you learn to work with them.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
17 Sep 08
i'm not a couple just me& my dog.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
You know A.L., that may actually count as two cultures!lol Two languages, two different points of view..... Thanks!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
17 Sep 08
well thanks, i think.lol. have a good one.
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• United States
27 Sep 08
I guess I would have to say that my husband and I are from different cultures, well we are different races but we are both from america. My husband is Hispanic and I am African American. I am happy, I guess that I am not the type of person that would date inside of my race and I don't care what culture or what.I say if you love someone then the color shouldn't matter to you at all. Husband and I have faced alot of racism because of our interracial relationship, but we continue to walk with our head high and we continue to love one another.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
27 Sep 08
We are all one human race anyway! I don't understand why your choice of who to love would bother anyone! I'm just a hopeless romantic and cheer for anyone who can make things work in this day and age
• Philippines
7 Oct 08
Cross-culture marriage, i believe, is for the open-minded, patient, and humble. It takes more than romantic love to make this kind last. I think it is just the same with single-cultural marriage. I have been married for four years, he is from Libya and i am from the Philippines. We are both open and willing to learn about the other's culture, and have both adapted to each other's style and way of life. The challenge in this union lies in one's willingness and capacity to explore and experience a wholy different world and in the couple's ability to create a culture of their own, integrating into one the positives from their respective cultures. Doing so takes a lot of patience (in learning and unlearning along the way, especially with kids involved in the process) and humility in the compromise that you have to make. I am happy with my choice and everyday i am learning new things, even about myself. The more i become selfless, the more i find myself evolving into a better person. It is quite a hard task though, but i believe that my children will enjoy a lasting reward because of this. It is truly fascinating but i will not recommend this to everyone especially if the other is from a diferent religious background. This is another story.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Thank you for your comments from your own personal experience. You are right, it takes the right two people for this to work. You seem to be doing an excellent job with your own situation. You have a beautiful family! God Bless!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Yes we are a multi - cultural couple. Multi - cultural couple means that couple who were married who lives in different culture. We meet @ some dating sites and he is from Florida and I'm from the Philippines. I'm so happy with my choice and i never regretted in marrying him. For you out there, i will not tell you that you also engage in multi - cultural marriage, t all really depends upon you. Eversince I was a child i really dream to marry americans that's why I went to some online dating sites.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Was it difficult for you to adjust to a different culture? Are there things about each others cultures that frustrate you at times? Is it difficult to move away from you own culture? Do you get homesick? Are you in contact with people who share your culture in America? Thanks
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 08
Well his parents are German, he was born in Bogota Colombia and I am American. But he was raised here so there isn't much in the way of cultural differences. Now the Asian guy I once dated, there were definitely some differences there. We just didn't understand where the other was coming from sometimes.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Thanks for you response:)
• India
17 Sep 08
We are a single culture family. I have seen some families who are from the different culture and in most of the case they adopt each other's culture and they are happy. If they do not compromise to adopt one for the betterment of their further generation there can be more problems for their children because the child has to adopt one of them.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
17 Sep 08
We're a single cultural couple also. Thanks for your post:)