Ever had a hollow victory? Was it just as sweet or did it kill the moment?

@James72 (26790)
Australia
September 17, 2008 2:08am CST
You know the situation I am talking about right? For example, you know 10 people in the office will be promoted and you and your friend are one of the ten. Yet when the time comes you get promoted yourself but your friend is one of the 5 that doesn't! You feel great that you made it, but also sad that your friend didn't. I also had a situation when I was in High School where I was always known as the "second fastest kid" in school for the 100 meters. There was one kid that ALWAYS beat me. At one particular sports carnival he eneded up with the flu or something and couldn't race so of course I won and was named as the champion for the 100M that year. But it wasn't really a true victory was it because the main guy I had to beat didn't run. Another hollow victory! Do you have any personal examples of the same? Was the victory just as sweet as ever or did it leave a bitter taste in your mouth?
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mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Sep 08
James I have always been a second person in school. The sub monitor, sub moderator, vice captain and even in sports I would never manage the first thing. Even in studies I had been a second person. While my sisters would win the first prize I would settle for the second. And even now, I am a secretary that again being a second. Having said this, I have hardly bothered about that. This could be the reason why I didn't really try harder to reach that coveted place. NIce introspection this led me to. Thanks.
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James72
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
Oh! Well at least being second means that you are better than average without the ongoing pressures of being first and maintaining the lead! How's THAT for a silver lining! Thanks as always for responding mimpi and good luck with the further introspection.
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mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
17 Sep 08
Yes and that 'something' would make me remember the incident forever. And it would bring back memories that i wish to forget so badly.
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James72
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
Topic digression is welcomed! At least you started within the context of the discussion and I can't ask for more than that! Yes, your example with your Sister's is EXACTLY what I am talking about. Although you wish to be overjoyed and proud there is something that just ruins the whole moment.
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likaes
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
17 Sep 08
I don't claim to be a great gamer or anything, but my friends are worse than me. So when I massacred them in a game they were all pretty down, so I guess that was a empty victory for me. Sometimes, being ahead of others means leaving them behind.
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James72
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
Naaaah, they're just sore losers! If you beat them fair and square then savour the victory and damn them all! lol. Yes whenever there are winners it unfortunately also means that there are losers as well and it doesn;t help any when those that don't win are your friends! Thanks for responding.
alokn99
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
17 Sep 08
The first type mainly, where i have won or gained something but people around me have not YES, on many a time. The happiness and sweetness was sweet, but extremely short lived when the reality dawned on me. I have always tried to be a team person who like to do things together which always made the success of combined effort to be the sweetest.
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James72
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
17 Sep 08
I would like to think that I am someone who is happy to share a victory with others as well and there have been many times that I will immediately state another's involvement if I get sole credit for something that was not all my doing. I have worked with people before that are very quick to take credit for something that they did not achieve single handedly and it's not very professional! It is just a bit of a downer when sometimes we do solely win at something or achieve something but it wasn't really as clear cut as it could have been. Thanks for responding alokn and you have won as the first response to my discussion no question. No hollow victory here!
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