Does your Husband/Wife take things out on you when work goes wrong?

@Seppy1984 (2148)
United States
September 17, 2008 11:03am CST
Well one day my hubby came home and was complaining and just in a horrible mood. And he was telling me that he got yelled at because someone did not exactly tell him what all needed done. And I told him that I'm sorry that everything is taken out on him. Now I understand why he get's upset. He does just as much as the people do that have been there longer then him. So he complains that I do nothing to provide to the household. He does this alot when things go wrong at work. I dont know what to do to calm him down. I listen to what he has to say. Then he keeps saying that I could get a job. But I do have a job I take care of our children when he is at work and I take care of the house and I cook all the time which does not bother me I just wish he would relize that I do help with the household. I dont know what else to try to ease him. Any body that has any ideas or goes trhough the same thing. Please do share.
5 responses
• United States
19 Sep 08
I think everyone does this to a certain extent. When your grumpy, pmsing, or sick who has to put up with you? I know when I worked at my last job I hated it and would come home just yelling and screaming at my husband. A grumpy mood will always pass. Working is always very stressful...I mean really you cant even go to the bathroom when you want to!
@Ithink (10673)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I do know what you mean not by the yelling but sometimes he comes home sooooo GRUMPY! I just try to let him relax and then he gets to being okay again. You know they say that people will act like that with the ones they love as they are secure enough to know that you wont hate or leave them. Maybe to help him more, tell him you understand but it is really not fair to say that you dont do anything to provide toward the household. Withe prices these days unless you can get a good paying job it might not even be worth it with the price of child care. On top of the stress of both getting home and trying to do supper and such.
@emarie (5454)
• United States
17 Sep 08
he doesn't complain, but i may sense he's irritated. its part of my own nature to be a little bit empathic and i can feel his irritation and sometimes it rubs off on me. most of the time he can keep it in, especially if its something from work.
@babykeka80 (2003)
• United States
17 Sep 08
My husband hardly ever takes anything out on me. His boss is a real jerk and screams at him and the other guys practically all day. Normally he wants to tell me about it but never really changes his attitude towards me because of it. However, I will be honest. Somedays I come home from work and between customers, management, coworkers, and not making any money I can be a real B*tch. I do take it out on him sometimes. I will just yell at him I don't want to talk about it. I have been trying really hard recently though. I have tried to tell myself it has nothing to do with him and it is definitely not his fault. He had a bad day just like I did why blame him or make his even worse.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
17 Sep 08
No, if anything, he will talk to me about what happened on his job.. Or he will remain quiet. But, my fil is good for doing things like this. But, not his son.. If my husband had to do this around me.. We would be through..