what to do about biting

@heaven11 (1159)
United States
September 18, 2008 9:29am CST
okay my son is 3 and he has never had a problem bitting along with his 4 year old cousin i mean no problem at all neither of them have ever bit anyine befor but they both go to the same preschool they have both only bit once so i cant say its a issue yet but i want to put a stop to it befor it starts being an all the time thing the only thing i can think of is theyve seen someone else do it at the school the thing about biting is i wont tolerate it when i was a kid if i bit someone my mom would bite me back to show how it felt well the problem with that is now its considered child abuse how to i stop this befor it starts
3 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I run a daycare and have been going threw this issue with one of my kids. I talked to the parents and we agreed to tell the child if he is going to bite someone, he has to bite himself first. Well, he did bite someone, so I told him if he wanted to bite something to bite his own arm and he right there brought his hand to his mouth and bit it~ hard!! He started to cry (poor thing) and once I got him calmed down, we talked about how much it hurt and how he was hurting his friends by biting them. It worked.
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Thanks for br...hope it works for you.
@mom4kids (657)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
thats an interesting idea
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
18 Sep 08
that is a great idea if i have any more problems out of him i will defentily give it atry thanks for great advice
@rainmark (4302)
18 Sep 08
My son is having his new teeth and it's 8 now. He always biting me and everytime he did it i slap his mouth and said "no thats bad". I know he nevr yet understand me but when he started to bit me i raise my hand and say no so he stop. You must talk to your son not to do it. You must say it frimly so he can follow you.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
18 Sep 08
well like i said this is the 1st time hes ever done it and my daughter desnt do it either so i wanted to find some ways to deal with it befor it became a problem thanks for responding
• United States
18 Sep 08
I think it's only considered child abuse to a certain extent. My kids both went through a phase like that, usually when they were getting new teeth. They do it because it feels good and they don't understand that it causes pain to others, you have to show them that. I never crossed the line when teaching my children that biting hurts, never enough to even leave a mark, it doesn't take much when they're that young. I just bit them back lightly on the fingers or somewhere, using enough pressure to cause discomfort, and when they would say that it hurts, I would explain to them that it hurts other people when they do it to them, too. Usually it didn't take long for them to get the point.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
18 Sep 08
i could understand the teething thing if they were younger but there 3&4 and beings i know theyve never had a problem iam blaming it on the school and i know its not their fault that other kids bite it just really aggervates me when my kid comes home doing something hes never done befor thanks for the advice