"comforting a friend"

Hi che. I've always been there all the time for a friend. No matter what I'm doing, talking and helping a friend in need is most important to me. And they do that to me also. I'm glad that there are people like you who always lend a helping hand. Keep it up! HUGZ!

Oh!! how sad. yes, it happened to me many times that I even used the loud speaker of my phone because I am online when my friend called and I can't hold it while I am typing. I have a friend who always called me when she and her husband would have an argument. yes, when it is something serious, I will stop my work and listen to her. I also give her some reminders that she should adjust and stop comparing herself to others who are what she said,,,, happy in their marriage and that she is not. Sometimes I am fed up but I still listen to her and tell her to just don't mind it. I always tell her that there is no perfect marriages, and that she has to face reality and live with it as long as she is not under violence. Argument is always normal and those are just spices of married life. I'm glad that she did not call now for to report about her marriage. she called once in a while to share with me their outing as family and etc.

i used to be like this. let me confess here. but now i have stopped believing friends like that way.one friend whom i used to think as my best friend just took advantage of me. he cheated me big time and also behaved very very badly. so i do not believe someone as friend now.

I like to comfort my friends as well. Since they are dear to me, I always am a good listener and adviser to them. Being their confidante, I feel like I have the responsibility to comfort them and be with them when they're not feeling good.

Hi Checa Hope u must be doing well, all i would say that u did right things and its so nice of U, but 4 hours is really too much time on phone, if i hold phone for more than 15 mins, my hand get tired. my ear start aching. but u did marvellous Sure i always have time for friends, as its saying , Friend in NEED is friend indeed" Take care

Well, usually I'll spend time with a friend who really needs me, but if there's something VERY urgent that I need to do, then I'll just say to my friend that I'll call her back to continue our conversation after I deal with that urgent situation. However, I don't like to deal with people with "victim" mentality too often as they drain my energy and they ruin my mood. These types of people complain too much and they think they're in worse conditions than others.

You reminded me of the time when my room mate got terminated from her job... i was so shocked when i found out... i called in sick to my part time job just to be able to comfort her because she was so upset... i lost some money that i could have earned if i worked that night... but i had to to be there for her... and i did not ever regert doing what i had to do...

4 hours for a call seems to be quite a long time for me. We seldom talk in the phone for so long time. In fact today my friends and I don't often call each other because our children are little. We are all considerate and know how busy we will be at night because of it. Whereas in daytime we have to work and this is why we don't often call each other. Sometimes we will send SMS or email to each other. If my good friends need me, I will be there for sure. I love China

I use to spend hours on the phone talking to a special friend. But since I moved I haven't talked to her in nine years. I know shes o.k. because that is the type of person she is. We have been friends since 1971 to 1999. My mother and her mother grew up being friends. I miss her, and I'm mad at her for not being there when I needed her.

I am glad to hear that you spent the time on the phone trying to help your friend with her problem,because we always have to help people whenever we can,I do enjoy mylotting and it is the way me and my fiance make our money right now,but if my fiance wanted to talk to me,I would stop mylotting and talk to her,just like if one of our friends were to call up,and want to talk to me because they have a problem I would take the time to talk to them until I can help them,just like I know my fiance would do the same.

If one or both of us, my BOF have problems with our families or partners, we spend time to talk about it. We are always chatting at nights talking small things to big things, everything. But I am really really sad that my time getting online for the past weeks are so limited that we almost lost communication.

yes i am the same like you.i dont care the other things if my closed or good friends needs to talk to me.thats whats friends are for right?good girl Che.

Thank goodness I have DSL and my phone line is not tied up with the dial up Internet crap anymore! I have friends and family that call often to discuss problems and the many things that go on in our day-to-day life. Having a good ear and listening to your friends is what makes you a friend. Isn't it a blessing to have friends that are there for you, no matter what? I plan to always try and be here for my friends 24/7 and hope in my heart that they feel the same way toward me.

Nature had given us two ears, two eyes and but one tongue- to the end that we should hear and see more than we speak - socrates You will never can call anyone a friend if they don't know how to listen. Give advices but never decide for him/her. He/She is capable of solving her/his own problem. Always speak... not on his/her behalf, but always give the other side of the coin. Sympathize but not too much enough to make him/her feel that you are on his/her side.

hi che! that was really nice of you to have spent four hours on the phone with your friend. myLot is not the only thing in our world so its good to spent time on other things and to people such as our friends and family and other love ones. we play not only the role of a myLotter but we are also a friend, a daughter, a mother, a cousin, a girlfriend, etcetera. we play a lot of roles in our life and we have the responsibilities to play those roles. its good the you gave her the time and listen to her problems. it shows that you're really a friend and you played your role. there hasn't been any major problems with my friends lately but i do give them time when they need me. i go out with friends, hang out with them, spend time with them. especially during weekdays after work. at weekends though, i find it hard to go out and hang out with friends. i always feel like staying at home. but i always entertain calls from friends.

Hi Checapricorn, its not my friend but my younger sister whose husband is not doing well financially. My husband and I all the way went to her place(its 14 hours journey by train) to listen to her woes and offer her help if we can. She was pleased about this but somehow I found that her hubby is lazy and doesn't want to work hard. Now I've started thinking on this point how to take him out of his shell. This is really bugging me because as far as work opportunity is concerned, we are offering them but what can we do about a peron who is lazy?

I have been in this situation quite a few times over the years, spending time with a friend to help solve personal issues. Quite a lot of housework has been neglected because of it, but to me that is what friends do, I could not turn my back on a friend in distress all because a bit of dust needs to be cleaned or a basketful of washing needs to be done, those things can all wait another day.

i usually listen to friends when they need some one to talk to. but that does not mean that i will always put up with them when this thing become a recurrent one. but if they don't change if they keep talking so many things about their problems that they are going to disturb my normal life that i will not any more be that willing to keep listening to what ever they are going to say .

indeed, you're a good friend... =) yeah, it happens most of the time.. my friends come to me and ask for a piece of advice.. i give them my time in spite of a toxic sched... =) that's what "true" friends are for...

no, I am always there for my friends and family! I don't have a ton of friends because I keep myself busy with the ones I have and my sisters and brother. Thats enough to keep my occupies I don't want to have more then I can handle